I've had a night planned with a good friend for a few weeks. A concert near where she lives (a few hrs away from me). Was going to stay the night in hers, no other options really rural location and no public transport back to my home.
She's with a new DP, who is from a different country and one of his friends is now travelling over to stay a few days with them. One of those days/nights being the one of the concert. So we're going along with a few of her other friends and family.
Thing is now it's her and her DP, me and now this other guy staying in her house that night.
I'm married, my DH knows this friend very well, but I haven't said yet about this other guy now meant to be staying at hers. We haven't had a happy marriage on the last few years. I wouldn't do anything /cheat or anything like that, but he will possibly freak out about me staying in her house for the night now.
To be honest I can see what his point would be, but I'm avoiding mentioning it to him until after Christmas in case he gets in a mood and ruins the next few days.
I will tell him of course though. Am I being unreasonable to still go? If he really feels uncomfortable I won't, but I will be massively disappointed.
I know I will tell him and will respect his wishes but what would u do? Am I overthinking this?
For context there's nowhere else I or this other guy can realistically stay that night so if I do go I have to stay in hers.
Thanks for reading