To not take him to the party?

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My DS9 is due to a party at a bounce park tomorrow. He’s looking forward to it and I’m also meant to be taking a friends child too as she’s at work. I’m so scared of DS picking up Norovirus or sickness this close to Christmas.

AIBU to cancel?

You really need to ask...

Just to check, in case you meant to add this detail, you’re not aware of anyone who is going who has been sick in the last few day?

I have pretty severe emetophobia and this is the kind of thing I’d want to do (avoid a busy children’s activity in case they pick up a bug) but that I force myself to not avoid because I know it’s the way to madness.

You can’t live in fear of catching bugs. The kids shouldn’t suffer due to your anxieties.

I don't really know if anyone there has been sick or not

You would be wholly unreasonable to pull out the day before, letting down your DS, your friend and her child AND the birthday child, yes. If you are this anxious about hypothetical bugs you should never have committed to it in the first place. But you did, so you need to do the decent thing and honour it.

Horrendously unreasonable.

Of course you are.
Very, very unreasonable in fact.

Bad enough if you make your ds miss out on things by turning down the invitation in advance, but really, really nasty to accept the invitation, take up a space they could have offered to another child, agree to take yet another child then even think of cancelling for no reason.

So selfish.

I try not to do anything big in the lead up to Christmas as it’s awful having a cold or similar. But this I would do for my kids. And letting down the parent of the child you’re taking and the party child is awful. Sanitise your hands and both wash your hands when leaving .

In that case, very unreasonable. Fair enough if you knew a child going had spent today throwing up and the selfish parents were taking them anyway or something.
I think if this is a serious issue for you, then the least worst option would have been declining in the first place. Definitely not accepting, and also agreeing to take another child.

You can't live like this OP. If your health anxiety is interfering with you living your life to this degree you need help. I hope you're ok and can find support for this.

Don't pull out. You're being really irrational. Birthday parties around Xmas can already have poor attendance. If 2 children miss it for no good reason that could really impact the birthday child's day.

Very unreasonable to cancel for that reason, the day before

YABU

Go let the kids have some fun.
No one is going to go through life and not catch something.

Are you particularly vulnerable to illness?

Unless your plan B would be that he essentially stays in the house for the next few days, he could catch it anywhere. Take him to the party.

If you’re so anxious that you are going to pull out, you shouldn’t have RSVPed yes in the first place. It’s also unreasonable to portray your anxieties onto your child.

You know it’s unreasonable

So basically you're clinically paronoid?

Bloody hell 🙄🙄🙄

Outrageous - poor kid.

Was your child not in school just 2 days ago i.e. less than one week until Christmas Day.

It would be really unreasonable to cancel the day before the party, for your child who is looking forward to it, and the birthday child (and their parent who is paying for and organizing a party!)

You’re just as likely to pick it up in a supermarket doing your Christmas shopping so does that mean you won’t be going Christmas food shopping? I do think it’s unrational yes and surely the children will know you’ve cancelled taking them for no reason