Should I be so upset and annoyed!?

[Aita92]

Im the youngest in my family but seem to have ended up with the role of mum. Everyone just take take takes from me, Im the one to be there and solve everyone's problems, from history/ bad experiences i just do what people want to keep them happy as i know they will throw a tantrum. These people dont even say please or thanks. No one is there for me when I need them.
I have my own life, work and health stresses and deal with them fine but im feeling overly sensitive just now dealing with everyone else's sh*t!
People say do self care or stand up for myself, and I do try, and I do say no but sometimes its all too much, I want to tell everyone to f**k off but then I would have no family or friends left at all but by God I feel like people are just taking the mick sometimes!

I'd gradually make yourself less available. Switch your phone off at the weekends. Don't log on to Facebook.
Be slower to answer requests. Tell everyone how desperately busy you are at the moment. Be late for things. Generally become less reliable.

They'll soon get the idea. 😊

Tell them all to fuck off then. Having no family or friends genuinely sounds better than this.

My pal told me once if you're always a Yes Man people will get pissed off the one time you say No. But if you become a No Man, the very infrequent times you say Yes will be celebrated.

Time to become a No Man. Even if they throw a tantrum.

It’s best to stop being scared of (non-violent) adult tantrums. Just let them metaphorically throw their toys out of the pram while you metaphorically pour yourself a glass of wine.

I am in the exact same position as you . I just remind myself parents won’t be here for ever and I can’t bear the thought of them being left alone .

When we were kids I was the black sheep and my sister was the golden princess. Her snitching got me many a walloping. When you treat your children differently you reap what you sew. I eventually left the city I was born in for professional reasons. I made myself a lot less available and difficult to contact. There were no smart phones then, only land lines. I had a job which took me abroad several times a year but I deliberately exaggerated my travelling. No one knew how to contact me. My sister had been the golden princess so I decided to allow her to become the golden carer.