Should I be so upset and annoyed!?

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Im the youngest in my family but seem to have ended up with the role of mum. Everyone just take take takes from me, Im the one to be there and solve everyone's problems, from history/ bad experiences i just do what people want to keep them happy as i know they will throw a tantrum. These people dont even say please or thanks. No one is there for me when I need them.
I have my own life, work and health stresses and deal with them fine but im feeling overly sensitive just now dealing with everyone else's sh*t!
People say do self care or stand up for myself, and I do try, and I do say no but sometimes its all too much, I want to tell everyone to f**k off but then I would have no family or friends left at all but by God I feel like people are just taking the mick sometimes!

You don't have to tell people to fuck off but you can definitely practice boundaries. You won't end up without family or friends. You may need to make some new friends, which is much easier with solid boundaries.
Friends who grow tantrums are probably not people I'd be keen to have in my life at all. And what does it matter if you loose them all? It sounds like they give you nothing but trouble anyway.

You sound resentful. If you feel burdened take a step back. From what you say there are many ppl involved. If you loose fam for standing up for yourself, it proves their worth. Be yourself, any family that care will be there for you. Best wishes. X

You can’t complain about something you allow. What ‘tantrums’ are these adults throwing?

What type of things are you having to deal with?

Can you give examples then perhaps we could help with what to say and do so you are not so overwhelmed by the demands?

This is not sustainable. Stop offering to do anything you haven't been asked to do directly. Put up boundaries and say no when you are over loaded. Help only when you really want.

Can you give some examples Op?

Got you well trained, haven't they? They tantrum, you do as you're told. This won't change unless you change it.

People who don't want to know you unless you act like their slave are not worth knowing. Say no, and see who's left standing after a month or a year. The people who love you won't reject you because you grew a backbone. And for the ones that did - well, find better people.

Set boundaries now or the sh*tty layered cake will finally be iced and you’ll end up NC.

25 years of doing your job, my limit was reached and set two never-to-be-crossed boundaries, but these were ignored and crossed anyway. I knew then that I didn’t really matter to them and I wasn’t valued. I was there for their benefit only. So NC for me. It’s sad but oh my god, it’s very very very peaceful.