For thinking the dad in Bluey does NOT raise the fathering bar that high?

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My DH thinks the dad in Bluey does an unattainable level of parenting. AIBU to think that he isn't really doing anything that amazing or that mums don't do all the time?

I think the constant make believe and going along with games would be exhausting so props to him for that

I think he plays with his kids on a level and to an extent that very few parents, mums or dads, achieve. Love Bluey!

Bandit raises the bar for me as a mum! He has serious patience and willingness to play weird games. My kids try and play magic xylophone with me and it does not last the length of a bluey episode

It sounds like your DH is making excuses. Do you really want to stay with him? Start getting your ducks in a row.

I think the willingness to play and fully join in/engage with the game is way above what most parents manage tbh, mums and dads.

No, there is a whole eposide on how to parent with a hangover and the parents frequently get it wrong.

I think he's a more involved father than Daddy Pig. Though the Pigs do have a lot of grandparent support, which takes the weight off.

He stops all work, at every point in time, to play with his children.

No, but his constant desire to always play with his kids no matter what is.
Chilli on the other hand, she never ever gets mad and Bluey is a right little twat sometimes so I think it’s more her level of parenting that is unattainable. No parent is that patient.

Agreed. I don't think many parents actually play in the way that's depicted on the show. We may like to think we do but in reality I doubt most parents do and that goes for mum's as well as dads.

I never kept that level of pretend play and interaction up! He is the gold standard of parenting.

Yeah, it's this. There is no way I'm spending 6 hours of my Saturday playing Hotel and 2 hours putting the house back together.

I think they're both incredible parents. So, so patient and so willing to play make believe or make a job fun.

I think sometimes they're too good and the kids could use a taste of what life's really like tbh.

That one where they're shopping for Muffin's birthday present and he's trying to guess what they need through charades...come on!

Yeah, I'm mentally done in after 30 minutes of imaginative play and don't have half his patience. So to me it's 100% unattainable.

Yeah I think it's unattainable, they are so deep in pretend play sometimes that it just wouldn't work in real life

I think the show has got better over the seasons, at first I thought it was actually a very ego centric depiction of fatherhood, i.e. father as centre of all the play (which imo you should leave kids to get on with as much as possible). Now it’s better as they show the girls playing with friends much more.

Im married to the dad in Bluey. If I go out, I come home to a den built in the lounge, toy swords and shields everywhere and an overexcited adult and child. But the washing was still in the machine, the kitchen was a chaos of empty snack packs and I had to get on and get the house sorted. And that was just today.

DH is great at fantasy stuff but its like a Disney dad frankly. I get a bit fed up with being bad cop and boring mum!

So Bluey's dad doesn't raise the bar at all.

He’s better than Daddy Pig who is insufferably inept.

I really dislike Bluey, and especially Disney Dad Bandit. I think the idea that parents should immediately drop whatever they're doing whenever their child wants to play is a crappy message for kids. Real life, sadly, doesn't work like that.

Real life also doesn't work like dogs talking and driving and having jobs and mortgages. I think it's fair to say they weren't aiming for gritty realism with Bluey.

I'm not sure I want the sad truth of real life conveyed on Cbeebies tbh.

Chilli in Sticky Gecko, when she's trying to get the kids out of the door on time, is my parenting goals. I get so frustrated, but I'm trying to channel Chilli now.

I like Bluey; it’s a well made children’s programme and sweet. But the hype behind it is annoying and I can’t get behind it.

Flop is unbelievably patient. I like his ‘it’s no big thing.’ I say it to myself sometimes when a child has knocked a drink over or something that somehow feels like the end of the world.

Flop acts like he’s had a lobotomy. And also the awful way that Bing speaks! It doesn’t teach children correct verbiage at all.

I can’t imagine most parents crawling round a supermarket on their hands and knees because they were playing a game with their kids.

It doesn’t but then he’s three, isn’t he? And many three year olds do make mistakes verbally.