Right, not even sure where to start so apologies if this is a bit all over the place.
I got into this relationship thinking it was just me and him. Nothing fancy, no drama, just two people giving it a go and seeing where it leads. I’m not naïve, I know everyone’s got a past, but I thought the past was… well… past.
Turns out there’s another woman.
Not an affair exactly. Apparently nothing “going on”. But she’s there. Always has been. Everyone seems to know about her except me. They talk like it’s common knowledge and I’m meant to just shrug and crack on.
When I asked him about it, he looked at me like I was being daft.
“She’s always been around.”
“It doesn’t mean anything.”
“You’re overthinking it.”
But how am I meant not to overthink when it feels like there’s three of us in this relationship and I’m the only one who didn’t get the memo?
I feel stupid, if I’m honest. Like I walked in believing one thing while everyone else knew the score. I’m expected to just accept it, smile politely, and not make a fuss — because apparently that’s what reasonable women do.
I keep thinking if I’d known from the start, I might’ve thought twice. I didn’t sign up to compete or constantly wonder where I stand. I just wanted something straightforward.
So, AIBU for feeling hurt and a bit betrayed?
Or am I genuinely being unreasonable and this is just how relationships work now?