Im worried my partner is going to come in from a works night out and think he’s entitled to sex

[youarebeingsoextrarightnow]

He is going to come in and think he is entitled to sex, is this normal? I read the question back and it’s a no

What? Just say no!

If he gets pushy, kick him out or call the police.

What will he do if you say no?

This is ominous. Does he come in and hope he’s going to get lucky because he’s pissed but accepts it’s a no then immediately falls asleep snores his head of and stinks the room out with kebab breath- normal. Or does he come home and go on and on in a mood until you do it anyway (one way or another)- not normal.

Worried about you OP - are you safe?

If you are concerned he will rape you, please do what you need to to make yourself safe tonight - can you go stay with a friend or family member?

As others have said, it's fairly normal to want sex with your partner after a few drinks. Depending on the relationship, it may be normal to expect it. (I currently have two FWBs I am sleeping with - both know it's not exclusive - and when I arrange a night out with either I very much expect sex to be part of that, as do they. Nobody believes it's their right, tho, or is anything other than lovely if, for whatever reason, it actually isn't on the cards).

"Believing you are entitled to it" is a whole different level.

But the truly worrying thing is what he does if you don't comply. If the answer is anything other than "remain loving, respectful and polite" this isn't a safe relationship for you to stay in.....

He’s a rapist if he thinks he is “entitled” and tries to force you or ignores you sleeping etc . As you are worried I think you need to look into this and start 2026 as a year without having to worry about being forced into sex!

Agree. Plus the OP is about a man, plus (let's be honest) this kind of behaviour is much more prevalent amongst men.

I hope you are okay @youarebeingsoextrarightnow

No one is ever entitled to sex. Nor should anyone force, coerce, guilt/shame you into doing anything intimate.

Please take good care. The fact you are worried about this means there's something that isn't right in your relationship.

Oh shut up. Not every thread needs a "sWiTcH tHe GeNdErS" angle. This particular thread is about a man, ergo the sentence you "fixed" didn't need fixing.

Hi, i'm fine, nothing happened.

We haven't had it for weeks, I'm not interested, think its menopause. He gets a bit moody about it sometimes. He has never forced himself on me.

Your original post was very misleading! You don't have to have sex if you don't want to, but don't expect your partner to accept it. Your relationship will probably end.