Husband’s opinion?

[LetTheMemberSpeak]

NC incase family member recognises this

Today’s reminder that “ask your husband what he thinks” is still alive and well in 2025.
The context was I suggested shortening an email.
The suggestion came from a female family member who knows my qualifications.
My husband does not work in this field. I do. But sure, let’s consult the nearest man.
(my DH laughed at the suggestion with significant eye rolling too btw)

So my question is:
IABU - I should let his member give its opinion
or
YANBU - I should reply with scorn

I like this bit: "I should let his member give its opinion".

My mind is boggling!

Did she suggest you run it by him because he's a man, or because it would give you the benefit of input from another family member who knows the background to the situation? I think that distinction is important.

If she's being sexist, that's awful. If she thinks another POV from someone who knows the detail of what is happening and who is part of the family, then I can understand that more.

It would be so nice if there was even a chance it was valuing his input. But DH has nothing to do with this issue, only hears occasional updates from me.

This was now very clearly a response to not liking my advice/input so wanting ‘my man’ to correct me. This relative has difficulty hearing advice/feedback and some challenging behaviours.

Brilliant 😂👏👏👏

Yanbu OP. My dm was sorting out her will and despite having two really well qualified dds wondered whether she should have my dbil as the executor instead. I told her I thought me and dsis were quite up to the job 🙄