My birthday tomorrow aibu

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Should I feel grateful that dh has just buggered off out the house to sainsburys (and disturbed the children trying to sleep as noone here goes out at 10pm normally). I presume he wants to buy me flowers as a birthday gift.

Iabu - if I am ungrateful
Ianbu - if it is a bit lame really.

Happy birthday OP (and solidarity for a December birthday)

It's bad that he hasn't done anything for you other than last minute. There's no excuse.

Funnily enough it was my birthday on Wednesday and I received one card (from bil and sil not from my partner) only my partner said happy birthday...and I personally don't give a toss as birthdays aren't something that excite me they never have.

I might be missing the point but I always buy flowers the day before a birthday so that they’re still fresh. If flowers is the gift then I wouldn’t consider that a ‘last minute effort’ - Sainsburys have nice cards too. I place a lot of importance on good gift giving but I fail to see what he’s done that’s so bad.

Hope you have a lovely birthday OP

Happy Birthday!

Happy birthday. Let us know what he got you.

Happy birthday 😊🎂🎉🎊🎈

Happy Birthday OP! 🎉🥳. Hope the day improves as it goes on.

Years ago, I read DH the riot act about making more effort for my birthday. He always remembered it and bought a card and chocolates but I didn’t think that was good enough so I made that very clear.

He puts much more effort into birthdays and Christmas gifts and buys most of the gifts for the wider family, inc. my side of the family. He’s actually become really good at it now and sees it as a challenge to improve and starts squirrelling away stuff from January onwards.

I don’t see anything wrong with making your expectations clear around specific jobs that always need someone to take responsibility for and why should they automatically fall to me?

So it turns out I underestimated him a little bit as he had already bought flowers and a book I did want.

The trip to the shop was because one of the children had realised he had forgotten to make me a card and was upset. He clearly forgot the children as thd other 2 havent made me anything.

When i said it wasnt great that he went out late last night he said - " This day is not about you". So that's nice.

You probably need to change the thread title because he didn't go out to buy you flowers he'd already bought them along with your favourite book, I don't understand why you have such a huge problem with him going out to the shop at 10pm and to be frank you both sound as bad as each other, very immature.

Ah, I get it now. You just want to be peeved no matter what.

Well he did alright except the last comment which undid everything.
Basically he doesn’t really care about birthdays so now you don’t have to da much for his, as it’s not his day either.

I think it was nice that he nipped out to get something from little one because they were upset. I don’t know why you’re so pissed tbh

He can’t win, can he?

id have probably given you a snarky comment if you’d said that to me after I’d given you gifts that I’d thought about.

Well the day is about you so he can get stuffed with that comment. He also should have checked that your joint children had made cards and if not, been pre-prepared and bought cards and a gift. He’s thoughtless.

I'd appreciate my husband going out to get something from one of our boys if they were upset... I don't see the issue

Wow please raise your standards. What a pick me response.

Neither of you coming off well here.

Lots of people filling in the gaps there. Was i pissy with him??? I said it wasnt great 🙅

I agree with others that you are just looking for a reason to moan.

Why did you feel the need to comment it wasn't great that he went out when you knew your upset child was why he went out?