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AIBU to go to a wedding whilst 4 year old has sickness bug?

24 replies

RoundWood3 · 18/12/2025 11:44

The 4 year old will not be going to the wedding (no children were invited anyway).

I have a destination wedding this weekend which has obviously cost a lot. Husband isn’t coming so will be looking after the kids but I’ve been looking after little miss vomit this week.

im feeling fine myself but worried i might have caught it from her. The thought of coming down with the sickness bug mid flight … scary!

YABU - stay and help look after the poorly babe in anticipation of coming down with the bug

YANBU - risk it and enjoy a solo weekend away with the possibility of d&v

OP posts:
BettysRoasties · 18/12/2025 11:45

I’d say you shouldn’t go as you risk infecting a whole flight and wedding worth of people.

Puppyyikes · 18/12/2025 11:45

I would go, but my kid gets vomiting bugs all the time and I never pick them up.

Dulcie6 · 18/12/2025 11:48

I would go

FancyCatSlave · 18/12/2025 11:49

I’d go if I felt 100% well on the day, if I thought she would be ok to leave with DH (not because a man can’t do it but sometimes they only want their mum and if that was the case I wouldn’t leave her) if you haven’t caught it yet you probably won’t. Usually if it spreads it happens pretty quickly-but I would travel prepared. Sick bags, medication and a Plan B for if you found yourself unable to fly home as planned.

Mumsntfan1 · 18/12/2025 11:49

I'd go. You're not ill.

Checknotmymate · 18/12/2025 11:50

I wouldn't go because my biggest fear is diarrhea on public transport.

Also don't infect the other guests

Also weddings are awful.

SJM1988 · 18/12/2025 11:52

I'd go if I felt fine.
Usually they hit pretty quickly if you are going to catch it. My DC have had sickness bugs that noone else in the house has caught. I'm pretty hot on hand washing and not sharing things with sick children, but they have shared my bed when they have been sick.

ShesTheAlbatross · 18/12/2025 11:54

How long is the flight? An hour, I’d go if I felt fine before the flight. 12 hrs I’d maybe leave it!

And even if I flew there, I wouldn’t go to the actual wedding unless I felt totally fine! Don’t spread a sickness bug to a whole wedding party.

PurpleThistle7 · 18/12/2025 11:57

Kind of depends on how much I was desperate to go and how long the flight was. It’s usually quicker if it’s going to spread but depends on when you actually are exposed. I think being ill away from home would be terrible and no one would thank you for spreading it so would tend to think that way.

Bourneo · 18/12/2025 11:58

No, absolutely do not go! The risk of infecting a whole plane and the wedding party a week before Christmas is not worth it and very selfish!

Nearly50omg · 18/12/2025 11:59

You won’t be the only selfish person getting on that flight ill tbh 🤷‍♀️ you will ruin a load of people’s xmases if you do go and spread the bug far and wide though

BoxesBoxesEverywhere · 18/12/2025 12:02

YABVU
No, you shouldn't go - you've no idea if you may be carrying the bug and not got any symptoms yet - the last thing I need the week before Christmas is to come across someone like you who thinks "ah well I feel ok so I'm going"
(Suppressed immune system at the mo)

ImFineItsAllFine · 18/12/2025 12:08

I'd go if I felt 100% fine and if no one else in the household had caught it by the time I left.

80smonster · 18/12/2025 12:20

I would go, if you do end up with vomiting bug, you can show your green face to the bride? I’m sure she will tell you to stay in your hotel room. Meaning you get to recover in peace.

TheTaupeScroller · 18/12/2025 12:30

If you cancel everything every-time someone near you , you won't do much.

Imagine being a teacher! They'll never go on holiday anywhere.

It's up to you, either you feel sick or you don't want to run the risk and you stay home. Or you just go.

Most parents don't catch sick bug from their young kids anyway. I would just go.

Clefable · 18/12/2025 12:39

I would go if you feel fine. You can’t stop engaging in life every time you might have caught something but feel absolutely fine, especially with young kids at this time of year. If you’re not unwell, then off you pop.

AppropriateAdult · 18/12/2025 12:42

Bourneo · 18/12/2025 11:58

No, absolutely do not go! The risk of infecting a whole plane and the wedding party a week before Christmas is not worth it and very selfish!

But she’s not ill… You can’t avoid normal
life on the off-chance that you might be in the pre-symptomatic phase of an illness. As others have said, I rarely catch sickness bugs from my kids these days.

NerrSnerr · 18/12/2025 12:44

If everyone cancelled everything when they had a family member who was ill then no one would do anything.

I would go if you felt 100% fine.

GoldMerchant · 18/12/2025 12:45

Travel if you feel well; don't if you have any symptoms.

People attending events have to accept this as a risk and take precautions. I'm presuming you're being vigilant about hand washing etc at the moment, so - presuming you don't get symptoms - you're probably less of a risk to others than many people!

The risk of getting symptomatic mid-flight is there, but I think it's a risk I would take. Even with a vomiting bug that hits hard and fast, you don't usually go from feeling amazing to full on d&v immediately - there's some warning.

MrsSlocombesCat · 18/12/2025 12:47

I think it's too risky for the passengers on the plane. Bugs circulate very easily with the air conditioning. I caught a nasty cold on a plane to Florida and it ruined my holiday.

MrsSlocombesCat · 18/12/2025 12:48

GoldMerchant · 18/12/2025 12:45

Travel if you feel well; don't if you have any symptoms.

People attending events have to accept this as a risk and take precautions. I'm presuming you're being vigilant about hand washing etc at the moment, so - presuming you don't get symptoms - you're probably less of a risk to others than many people!

The risk of getting symptomatic mid-flight is there, but I think it's a risk I would take. Even with a vomiting bug that hits hard and fast, you don't usually go from feeling amazing to full on d&v immediately - there's some warning.

Sometimes you suddenly get a pain in your stomach and five minutes later you're throwing up.

ChloeCannotCanCan · 18/12/2025 12:52

I would go if you don’t feel ill - if you cancelled everything the moment someone close to you is unwell you would never do anything…

Itsasecretnow · 18/12/2025 14:26

MrsSlocombesCat · 18/12/2025 12:47

I think it's too risky for the passengers on the plane. Bugs circulate very easily with the air conditioning. I caught a nasty cold on a plane to Florida and it ruined my holiday.

You can pick up a “nasty cold”, flu, covid, d&v etc literally everywhere you go where there’s people. People go about their daily lives with colds, they’re a bit annoying and you can feel a bit crap, but people would never go to work if they were catching colds all the time, like from their children. How would eg teachers, esp of younger children, manage to not go in to work every time the caught a bug? Someone who had a bit of a cold but feels well in themselves and is able to carry on their daily life shouldn’t have to lose potentially thousands of pounds on a holiday just in case anyone catches it? Why should your holiday trumps theirs anyway? I mean yeah, I would be a bit annoyed at sitting next to someone with a cold but the virus is everywhere particularly at this time of year. If you choose to go on a flight, you accept that there may possibly be a minuscule risk of something like that. If you’re worried enough about the recirculating air then don’t fly.

Im pretty certain if I put up a poll of times people have actually caught something on a plane vs number of flights taken, or total number of flights all posters have taken, the results would show that the risk was an extremely small number - and would be probably be so low as to be statistically insignificant (not that I would actually sit here doing equations just to prove it!). The results would be easy enough to see. But in reality One person may have taken 100 flights and never got ill, one person may only have ever taken one flight and been unlucky.

Where im in agreement with, in these following cases I don’t think people should really go anywhere where there are big, physically close groups of people that you will be in contact with for an extended period (especially in inclosed spaces, not just flights, but weddings etc) who knowingly have covid, flu, ACTIVE v&d, or strong signs of, which the op doesn’t have atm, and she wouldn’t want to go if she did, that’s quite clear. But yes, people who do that are selfish. Although if someone had actual flu they’d not even be able to get on a flight, so chances of that would be lower, otherwise it’s just a cold. But you run the risk of literally anyone on that plane being completely asymptomatic, but still infectious, and you or they would have no clue, so if you are that worried about it, even just for a cold, then just don’t be in those places because anyone could have something and not know 🤷🏼‍♀️ people can’t just stop their lives because they have a cold.

Ironically I’m sat here with a cold. So sorry if it’s all a bit of a word salad, I’ve tried making it make more sense but I am feeling rufffff 🐶 My first viral infection of any kind (including Covid) in over 6 years. I’m also classed as immunosuppressed, btw, but I’d still have to accept that small risk if I wanted to fly. Or when I do have to go places where there will be other people.

Pranksters · 18/12/2025 14:53

Imagine being a teacher! They'll never go on holiday anywhere.

Exactly! I work with kids and I’m surrounded by flu, D&V all sorts. I’d never go anywhere…

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