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Christmas dinner police

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Namechangesecretsignature · 18/12/2025 00:07

Can’t sleep and endlessly reading MN. Oh how I loathe the Christmas dinner police. Policing what “should” be on a Christmas dinner, calling it Christmas lunch (urgh), all the formalities and “musts”. Reminds me of my ex DP who was aghast for about 4 years straight that no one in my family liked turkey so we had beef for Xmas. His mother called my mother to clarify it was true (after a drink) and I’d go round to theirs over the Christmas period and the whole (large) family would be saying things like “I can’t believe you don’t have turkey on Christmas dinner.” “It’s not Christmas dinner without” “without turkey it’s tasteless” (????) “you must buy a turkey and a ham for Xmas even if it doesn’t get ate its tradtition” from the same people who buy 3 turkeys (Xmas day, New Year’s Day redo, then another on Easter(!!!!))

anyway I digress, I loathe it!

OP posts:
HelenaWaiting · 18/12/2025 01:37

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 01:35

I never give my servants time off so it’s always Christmas lunch in my house

Just so you know, whilst you're correcting others, that it is you that is incorrect.

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 01:38

Perhaps we should agree to disagree

DramaAlpaca · 18/12/2025 01:40

CherrieTomaties · 18/12/2025 00:25

Not unless your northern. Breakfast, dinner then tea. Lunch doesn’t exist.

I'm very Northern (Cumbrian) but I suppose I'm a tiny bit posh, thanks to my mother having notions. Lunch definitely exists. I have breakfast, lunch then dinner, but I'm absolutely not posh enough for supper. Supper is a snack just before bed. Tea is a cuppa, maybe with a bikkie if you fancy one.

I don't do Christmas lunch, it's always dinner because I'm far too disorganised to serve it earlier in the day.

PyongyangKipperbang · 18/12/2025 01:43

Devilsmommy · 18/12/2025 01:34

😮 are you trying to give your mother a heart attack? 😂

I am not in a position to answer that question.....

Lol of course not but given that she hasnt cooked Xmas dinner in 20 odd years as its either been me or my father, bollocks to her! Yorkies it is! She is quick to boss about but very slow to actually do anything to fulfil her demands.

tripleginandtonic · 18/12/2025 01:46

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 00:23

I don't wish to be unduly pedantic but unless you're eating in the evening it's most definitely Christmas lunch

Lunch is called dinner where I live.

GoldsolesLugs · 18/12/2025 01:46

HelenaWaiting · 18/12/2025 01:37

Just so you know, whilst you're correcting others, that it is you that is incorrect.

And, guess what? You're both twats!

Devilsmommy · 18/12/2025 01:49

PyongyangKipperbang · 18/12/2025 01:43

I am not in a position to answer that question.....

Lol of course not but given that she hasnt cooked Xmas dinner in 20 odd years as its either been me or my father, bollocks to her! Yorkies it is! She is quick to boss about but very slow to actually do anything to fulfil her demands.

Oh I completely agree. I always do yorkies too😂 the way I see it is the person cooking gets to decide what the menu is😁

Missey85 · 18/12/2025 01:59

Yanbu 💕 my family hated Turkey too 😂 dad always made us roast pork instead 😊 ❤️ ❤️

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 18/12/2025 02:20

I am the Christmas dinner police. People who don't have turkey on Christmas Day are weird. And you must have Brussels sprouts, pigs in blankets, cranberry sauce, bread sauce, and Christmas pudding with brandy and white brandy sauce, or you're basically not a person. 🤣 And don't get me started on people who have mashed potatoes instead of roasted. 🤬🤬🤬😂

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 18/12/2025 02:22

GoldsolesLugs · 18/12/2025 01:46

And, guess what? You're both twats!

I'm from the south east where lunch is lunch, but on Christmas Day it's Christmas dinner, even if it's eaten at lunchtime. It just IS. Don't argue.

😂

Kimura · 18/12/2025 02:54

The good thing about being a grown up is that you can do whatever you like and it doesn't matter one tuppeny fuck what anyone else thinks of it...and you can tell them that too!

Aluna · 18/12/2025 02:54

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 01:35

I never give my servants time off so it’s always Christmas lunch in my house

🤣

Umy15r03lcha1 · 18/12/2025 02:56

CherrieTomaties · 18/12/2025 00:25

Not unless your northern. Breakfast, dinner then tea. Lunch doesn’t exist.

It's 'luncheon' ..... Actually

YippyKiYay · 18/12/2025 03:06

Thanks for this thread, I needed something to make me smile!
Fwiw we are all vegetarian and have Christmas lunch as whatever we feel like, and Christmas dinner also! Usually it's a cheeseboard with dips and fancy crackers. The kids love it. I love it. No stress, no pressure. We sometimes have a roast something at dinner time, always with yorkies because they are delicious (is there ever any other reason required). Our families are far away so it's always just four of us and the cat so we can do what we like. It is bliss

Somethingneedstochange78 · 18/12/2025 03:25

This post reminds me of that Christmas royal family episode. 😂😂😂I’m sure a lot of families have the same conversation but mention not having turkey it’s no way.

https://youtube.com/shorts/CzBrHLjLkdE?si=HA8828yoZQLKlSSL

We all want a bit of the leg less chewy.

- YouTube

Enjoy the videos and music that you love, upload original content and share it all with friends, family and the world on YouTube.

https://youtu.be/KM8FuztOggE?si=9XGHB0LIELFH8dlh

Somethingneedstochange78 · 18/12/2025 03:34

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 18/12/2025 02:20

I am the Christmas dinner police. People who don't have turkey on Christmas Day are weird. And you must have Brussels sprouts, pigs in blankets, cranberry sauce, bread sauce, and Christmas pudding with brandy and white brandy sauce, or you're basically not a person. 🤣 And don't get me started on people who have mashed potatoes instead of roasted. 🤬🤬🤬😂

That the only thing we don’t have is Christmas pudding. They don’t taste like they did when I was a child. So roulade it is this year.

LunaDeBallona · 18/12/2025 03:36

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 01:08

My only gripe is when people have Yorkshire puddings on their Christmas dinner, now that IS shocking! Yorkshire puddings are gorgeous but they’re for roast beef and have never been part of Christmas dinner. I just don’t get why people stick to some of/all of the other traditions of stuffing, sprouts, roast potatoes etc and then shove yorkshires on?!?! Why don’t people know the difference between a Sunday roast and Christmas dinner?!

The clue is in the name.
Yorkshire Pudding.
I don’t know which southerner decided that Yorkshires would only be served with beef but that is wrong wrong wrong.
Since they were clearly invented in Yorkshire I think WE Yorkshire women get to say what they are served with.
And, in case anyone needs clarity, the rule is -if there’s Gravy (yes, Gravy has a capital letter in Yorkshire as it’s so important) you can have Yorkshire pudding with it,
Ergo, every Sunday roast, every midweek meal with gravy and very much with sausages. (what do you think toad in the hole is? It’s not bloody beef)

So anyone who wants Yorkshire Puds with their Christmas lunch/Luncheon/Dinner -knock yourself out.
Here endeth the sermon.

Francestein · 18/12/2025 03:39

We are Australian and lived in Europe for most of kids’ childhood. Were back now and have clearly developed our own family Christmas traditions. In Australia it’s too damn hot to contemplate cooking a turkey. Having the oven on for hours and hours is bonkers. The country we lived in in Europe just had snacky eating all day, and of course my son and I have allergies to deal with also. One Christmas I cooked duck Marylands with sour cherry jus. It quickly became everyone’s favourite thing and now it’s not Christmas without duck. (Thank god for air fryers)

ChocolateCinderToffee · 18/12/2025 03:54

I’m English and I’m having duck. I’m not having Yorkshires because I won’t have room. I’m having Christmas pudding because it’s my favourite thing ever. I’m having six courses because if you can’t on Christmas Day when can you? I’m having a bottle of heavy red wine and a fuckton of cheese. I’m going to spend most of Boxing Day in bed, groaning

AquaForce · 18/12/2025 04:01

PyongyangKipperbang · 18/12/2025 01:12

Posted on one of the other Xmas dinner threads about my mother. She is a XD police officer.

It MUST be at lunchtime. ETA but it must be called Dinner....even though calling the midday meal anything other than lunch as children would earn us a thick ear.

It must NOT include.....
mash (ok, I am with her on that, roasties are easier and why make more work just for tasteless carbs?),
Yorkshires (hard disagree),
Anything that isnt a usual seasonal veg cooked and served as-is (once suggested cauliflower cheese and she took to her bed for two days).

And must never include a sauce that "doesnt go". So yes to cranberry.....imo its only there to give some semblence of flavour to otherwise tasteless turkey, no to mint (lamb only), bread sauce doesnt belong as "no one likes it" aka "I dont like it so no one else should either".

Oh and pudding never happens as "no one wants it after a big meal do they?" again....aka "I dont like it so no one else should want it".

This year is going to be fun as she will probably have a coniption when the plate of Yorkies hit the table, (in her house no less!!) and pudding will be served and hoovered up......as I am cooking!

Edited

A few years ago my mother unilaterally decided that 'no one' (her) wants Xmas pud anymore. She served lime jelly. It nearly broke our family. Normal service was resumed the following year but the trust is gone. She's a loose cannon.....😧

Mymanyellow · 18/12/2025 04:05

Somethingneedstochange78 · 18/12/2025 03:34

That the only thing we don’t have is Christmas pudding. They don’t taste like they did when I was a child. So roulade it is this year.

I love a roulade. Could eat it all myself.

verycloakanddaggers · 18/12/2025 04:11

Sorethroatpain · 18/12/2025 00:23

I don't wish to be unduly pedantic but unless you're eating in the evening it's most definitely Christmas lunch

Dinner is the term for the main meal, it can be eaten in the middle of the day or the evening.

Thedownwardspiralpath · 18/12/2025 04:15

AlexaBeQuiet · 18/12/2025 00:27

Turkey is fine once a year, makes great left overs. Turkey, Chips, Salad, Coleslaw on Boxing Day. Yes Turkey is dull but surely for one day a year it’s fine with all the trimmings

Why would you eat it if you think it’s dull ? 🤷‍♀️

Thedownwardspiralpath · 18/12/2025 04:20

LemaxObsessive · 18/12/2025 01:08

My only gripe is when people have Yorkshire puddings on their Christmas dinner, now that IS shocking! Yorkshire puddings are gorgeous but they’re for roast beef and have never been part of Christmas dinner. I just don’t get why people stick to some of/all of the other traditions of stuffing, sprouts, roast potatoes etc and then shove yorkshires on?!?! Why don’t people know the difference between a Sunday roast and Christmas dinner?!

People can eat what they want, the more yorkshires the better. I also like them with clotted cream and jam 😋

Mothership4two · 18/12/2025 04:22

MasterBeth · 18/12/2025 00:29

Only if you're posh.

Or from the South

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