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What would you do NOW if you were to test positive for Covid?

170 replies

patooties · 17/12/2025 23:26

In the next few days DH is
1/ chairing a committee
2/ invited to house party on Friday and another on Saturday
3/ a school Christmas assembly
4/ we are having friends over for dinner

he has been rough since Saturday- WFH so no problem there. Only tested this morning.

WWYD of those things (if feeling well enough) ? All or none of it? Or some of it. Give reasons for your answers please.

OP posts:
EssaDiTractor96 · 18/12/2025 07:22

And I keep testing when I am under the weather, so I can follow my advice above in need. Boots branches in London seem to always have plenty of testing kits.

forthispostonly · 18/12/2025 07:24

martha79 · 18/12/2025 07:04

This. I caught COVID in October, having never had it before and previously being fit and healthy. I tested because I wanted to know what was making me so ill and to know not to be in contact with vulnerable friends and family until I was negative. I usually bounce back quickly from illness - I was off work for nearly a month.

I've now been told by my GP to spend my entire Christmas holidays doing nothing - i.e. I can have a ten minute walk per day and occasional short visits from friends, but otherwise bed/sofa - to try to hopefully deal with the crushing fatigue and nervous system symptoms I've developed (early stages of long COVID, basically).

Nothing terrible is going to happen to you and your husband if you miss a few events.

Hi @martha79 , hope you're on the road to recovery soon. Can I just ask if you had the COVID vaccination at any point?

martha79 · 18/12/2025 07:29

forthispostonly · 18/12/2025 07:24

Hi @martha79 , hope you're on the road to recovery soon. Can I just ask if you had the COVID vaccination at any point?

I had all of them when they were available for everyone (so 4 I think?). Not eligible for them now, but honestly wishing I'd paid to have it privately this year in case it might have made this less bad.

MyDogHumpsThings · 18/12/2025 07:34

I wouldn’t go out with Covid, flu, or even a cold unless absolutely necessary - certainly not for socialising. It’s so unbelievably selfish. If everyone stayed home with infectious diseases, there’d be far fewer floating around and therefore less chance you’d need to cancel things.

HRTQueen · 18/12/2025 07:36

if for some reason took a test (I haven’t for some time) I would return to normal life once I felt I was able to like I do with any cold/virus

many of us will have had Covid in the last few years and just assumed it was a bad cold/mild flu type virus

it’s around it’s here to stay and life goes on as it does with all the other viruses that are about

HRTQueen · 18/12/2025 07:40

If everyone stayed at home who had and infectious virus hospitals, schools, shops, public transport and so on would not be able to run services

people can’t isolated because they are a bit under the weather

gogomomo2 · 18/12/2025 07:43

I wouldn’t have tested so I’d go by the “do I feel ill” decision making process. Yes I feel ill, don’t go, I feel fine, go, I feel tired with a residual cough, it depends on what it is.

Mademoidame · 18/12/2025 07:43

I'd go back to bed and cancel all of them because I'd almost certainly feel shit. That's for him. If you absolutely have to go to any of your events and you know there are no vulnerable people present, wear an FFP3 mask. Yes responsible people still wear them. My vet was sick and had one on the other week.

Ever since Covid every respiratory illness gives me a chest infection necessitating steroids and antibiotics, which is what I have now thanks to some fuckwit (or more than one) who thought it was fine to socialise when sick at the weekend.

Notmyreality · 18/12/2025 07:47

Well I would never test for Covid so wouldn’t know I had it. If I was unwell I would treat it the same as any other virus such as cold and flu. I would t be going out to any of these if I was unwell. Once I was feeling better and feeling up to it I would go.

GreyCarpet · 18/12/2025 07:54

HRTQueen · 18/12/2025 07:40

If everyone stayed at home who had and infectious virus hospitals, schools, shops, public transport and so on would not be able to run services

people can’t isolated because they are a bit under the weather

That's a bit different though.

I go to work when I'm ill but well enough to work because thats what we've been instructed to do (covid doesn't even get a mention anymore but we were directly told that that was the case even with covid a couple of years ago).

Social/non essential things are different.

But I had a bad cold recently and cancelled all social engagements because I didn't want to pass it on even after I'd gone back to work.

Craftysue · 18/12/2025 07:54

I've just tested positive yesterday. I've got an auto immune deficiency so I'm waiting to see if I need anti virals . I'm supposed to be helping with 2 large Christmas events on Saturday and Monday with 120 children each day but I've dropped out. I don't feel too bad but I have had my COVID vaccine. I'll stay in and see how I feel next week. I'm supposed to be having Christmas dinner with family including 3 elderly relatives and I will happily drop out to protect them. I will test again on Monday

caniaffordit · 18/12/2025 09:30

I’d do it all provided I felt well enough. I wouldn’t even test. I poorly and haven’t tested. I have no tests and I’m not buying them. If the government wanted us to test and isolate then they would provide us with free tests and information on what to do

BiddyPopthe2nd · 18/12/2025 10:04

In our house, he would do none of those until no longer testing positive.
I would sleep in other room to try and stave off getting infected.

if I was still negative, I would do school assembly.

I may still do the 2 parties solo, if I am still feeling good and no signs of an issue (and just say DH has bad cold, not mention covid specifically).

I think the friends for dinner depends on how DH is recovering - if he’s much better, I’d go ahead (especially if guests are not vulnerable healthwise) but cancel if he’s not obviously much better or if there are guests who are vulnerable.

Chairing committee is similar to dinner. If he’s feeling much better and no member vulnerable, he might go (possibly with mask on) and physically distance himself a bit from the rest of the group.

You can video assembly - even if he’s a good bit better. He should be 100% again to go there.

But I probably would be veering towards cancelling all.

Sharptonguedwoman · 18/12/2025 10:16

patooties · 17/12/2025 23:26

In the next few days DH is
1/ chairing a committee
2/ invited to house party on Friday and another on Saturday
3/ a school Christmas assembly
4/ we are having friends over for dinner

he has been rough since Saturday- WFH so no problem there. Only tested this morning.

WWYD of those things (if feeling well enough) ? All or none of it? Or some of it. Give reasons for your answers please.

I got Covid about a month ago. As it happens, I socialise with quite a few very much older people, some likely vulnerable, one with cancer. I cancelled everything for 10 days and went on cancelling things when my cough just wouldn't die. I might not have been contagious but I would hate to be a risk to anyone and no one hearing me cough would want to be anywhere near.
Really dull but also safe for others.
If DD, who lives with me got Covid, her work says 'treat as a cold' and motor on so circumstances alter cases.
Don't be a risk to others, I guess, especially the immunosuppressed. Your husband should do none of that for about 10 days, I would say.

Sharptonguedwoman · 18/12/2025 10:18

HRTQueen · 18/12/2025 07:40

If everyone stayed at home who had and infectious virus hospitals, schools, shops, public transport and so on would not be able to run services

people can’t isolated because they are a bit under the weather

No but it depends on how you behave (wear a decent mask) and who you are with.

Miranda65 · 18/12/2025 10:26

Ain't going to happen, because I have never tested and never will. Just get on with your life, OP!

BetterOffNow · 18/12/2025 10:28

I wouldn't test because it doesn't matter whether it's flu or covid - you shouldn't be spreading it around to vulnerable people surely!

MangoPizza · 18/12/2025 10:33

I'd avoid clinically vulnerable/elderly relatives. Inform the people coming for dinner so they can make a choice to come or not. And go to school if I felt well enough. Same as if I had any other illness, no need to test for covid. I have a Carol Service to go to today for my child at school and I know I run the risk of catching something, it's a primary school in winter.

Roobarbtwo · 18/12/2025 10:33

martha79 · 18/12/2025 07:04

This. I caught COVID in October, having never had it before and previously being fit and healthy. I tested because I wanted to know what was making me so ill and to know not to be in contact with vulnerable friends and family until I was negative. I usually bounce back quickly from illness - I was off work for nearly a month.

I've now been told by my GP to spend my entire Christmas holidays doing nothing - i.e. I can have a ten minute walk per day and occasional short visits from friends, but otherwise bed/sofa - to try to hopefully deal with the crushing fatigue and nervous system symptoms I've developed (early stages of long COVID, basically).

Nothing terrible is going to happen to you and your husband if you miss a few events.

I was unwell for 6 weeks the first time I had covid - otherwise healthy and around three weeks the second time. The cough and the tiredness was the worst thing

Roobarbtwo · 18/12/2025 10:34

Miranda65 · 18/12/2025 10:26

Ain't going to happen, because I have never tested and never will. Just get on with your life, OP!

With respect. This isn't about you or whether you have ever tested or not

MiddleAgedDread · 18/12/2025 10:38

I don't think there's any point in testing if you're not going to do anything with the results. either don't test and carry on as normal if you feel ok to, or test and take precautions to prevent spreading it.

luckylavender · 18/12/2025 10:54

Bigearringsbigsmile · 17/12/2025 23:30

I would check the calendar and see if I'd been transported back to 2020

🙄

xanthomelana · 18/12/2025 11:35

AussieManque · 18/12/2025 05:50

See my previous response, COVID takes a few days to build sufficient viral load to be detectable. If you suspect you have COVID but get a negative, keep testing every couple of days and assume you have it.

On the other hand, flu viral load builds rapidly so flu rapid tests work well on days 1-3 of symptoms.

We did more than one test over a few days. Mine was one of the ones that never got a positive result. If I’m honest it wouldn’t have made much difference anyway because we don’t have a policy for staying home with Covid anymore so we would have had to go to work regardless.

WildLeader · 18/12/2025 11:38

He does need to cancel everything.

you @patooties ? I suggest moving to a spare room if you can for the next few days

last time I got Covid (couple of years ago) I moved to spare room, nobody else in my house got it.

Nearly50omg · 18/12/2025 11:58

Why are people testing for Covid still? It’s been established it’s just another flu virus for goodness sake!