Miserable, don't want to do christmas

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I've not even put my tree up yet. I just CBA and wish I could just have a long nap and wake up after Christmas. Or get some Christmas spirit from somewhere, anywhere.

Parents have dementia/alzheimers, diagnosis of about 6 months and still getting me down. I have several health issues, arthritis, anxiety, ADHD, nothing debilitating but they are there. Grown up children are spending it with their respective in laws so will just 'pop in', grandchildren spending it with other grandparents. Youngest DC (late teenage will be with me and DP) BIL will also be joining us and possibly SD and young child but no one has confirmed anything yet - and if they do they don't want a traditional meal, just a buffet. And i'm just a bit skint too and have left presents to last minute and over spent again.

Tried to put a Christmas film on the other night to try get in the mood and DP sat and sighed through the first 15 mins so I turned it off. Soaps are depressing with issues too close to home for me to detach from so I get upset.

Does anyone else feel like they would just like to sleep through or am I being a depressed buggar?

Same. I'm only one chemo in with my second due tomorrow. DH has been snotting and sneezing today and I worry I've got it just in time and I'll be refused tomorrow as my temperature is very close to being over at the moment. I've been quite anxious about it for the last few days each time the kids have gone to school or whatever that they are going to bring something home.

No I hear you! Role on the 27th. I can’t be bothered with the rain and mud, the darkness, stress at work, Son home from Uni and causing havoc, love him dearly but my god he is testing my patience.

Maybe my age 51? But sick of the stress every year, if I could stay under the duvet until it’s over that would be great. 👍🏻

“Tis the season to be jolly” hmm?🤔

My DM died very recently, her funeral is in early January. I can’t sleep and the huge waves of grief have brought with them anxiety attacks, where I feel like I’m going to suffocate. I just want the entire damn thing to be over. Fortunately, I’d already got gifts for DC and impulse bought a huge real tree which fills the entire bay window and is monopolising the room and blocking any natural light. So, I’ll sit in the half-dark, and drown my sorrows by the light of my retro 80’s style fairy lights. I used to enjoy Xmas, but suspect it will never be the same without my lovely DM. Basically, Xmas can fuck right off.

I'm feeling the same and I've been beating myself up about it but my DH has really stepped up and is taking on lots and has told me off for being hard on myself.

This past year has been really hard,we lost our Grandson I was with my DD when she had to go through labour with him,my health has got alot worse and then last week I was at my cousins funeral and now reading that back I think it's probably normal that I'm not full of Christmas cheer but I will try.

I'm so sorry for your loss,I know it's really hard I struggled so much when I lost my mum.I hope you've got lots of love around you and people that will help out.💐

I'm so sorry to hear so many of you are going through stuff and feeling the same as me.

I went for an MRI last night which has also been weighing heavy on me but felt a bit of a relief after I had been.

I came home and half heartedly put up the tree, felt slightly more festive - but none of the other tat I normally strune around the house. Ate a whole box of gingerbread fudge I was gifted from work to the point of feeling sick.

I am just going to clean the house, make up the beds for whoever wants to stay and buy some buffet stuff for the freezer and some pies and quiches. They will bring their own alcohol if they want it.

What makes it worse is i was supposed to be off next week so would have had a few days to myself to get organised and sorted, whilst being a little chilled but had to cancel the holidays due to something going on at work, so pissed off about that too

Update: Well things just took an unexpected turn, to add to the stress and emotions. My 21 year old moved son in with his girlfriend of 7 months about a month ago. She found out this morning she is pregnant 😫

Do they both work in stable jobs? If they do, honestly it's not the end of the world. I had my eldest unplanned at 19. Still finished my education, still with DH 25 years since we first got together. Good jobs/business, lovely house. I honestly am glad I started young as now at 40 we have so much freedom and have money to actually do as we please.

Yes, they both do. He is useless with money though and he is, i'm sure, undiagnosed ADHD, his father wouldn't let me get home tested when he was younger.

My concern is more that they have only been together a short time, but she is a lovely girl. They are going to discuss it tonight and let me know what they decide to do, I said i'm happy to support either way, have congratulated him and said it's their decision what they want to do.

I've got adhd too as does my 21 year old daughter. I do appreciate it must be a shock and your head must be all over the place as they do still feel like kids in some ways.

Not going to pretend the early years weren't difficult for us sometimes and we did get help from my in laws with childcare so we could work as they were retired. See what they decide and maybe sit him down and go over finances with him if they do decide to go ahead with the pregnancy.

Hopefully they make the right decision for them, wishing you an easier, peaceful Xmas.