To think too many women twist themselves into knots for men who don’t even make sense?

[UntwistYourself]

Some women are so caught up in trying to keep or impress a man that they stop being themselves. They overthink every move, twist themselves into emotional pretzels and forget who they were before him. Meanwhile… half the time the man has no rhyme or reason to him. He’s not even that intentional or emotionally aware and yet some women’s entire lives revolve around what he’s thinking or doing.

AIBU to think some women would be so much freer, softer and happier if they stopped doing mental gymnastics for men who aren’t doing the same in return?

Yes. I agree completely.

There are men who do this too though- it’s not just a female thing.

YANBU. A lot of time is spent analysing texts and vague gestures that mean nothing other than what they say or what they are.

I’ve noticed lately that often when a man can’t be bothered to text back or ghosts after sex they are labelled “avoidant” and afraid of their own feelings…I’m afraid it’s more likely that they are simply not interested and no amount of analysis will help

Yep, but unfortunately one usually needs to reach a "rapture moment" before the message hits home. As, indeed, I have experienced only six months ago at the ripe age of 42.

And now, I find the whole thing laughable. Just yesterday a bloke I've only recently started seeing called me 10 minutes after I texted him saying "I didn't want you to think I wasn't responding so I though I would call. I am driving so can't text". Oh, honey. Didn't even cross my mind! I wasn't sitting there checking my phone and counting minutes :D

Yes agree 100 percent. If you have to spend ages analysing them and can’t be your true self then it’s not going to be sustainable. I have friends that try to convince me it’s exciting until all the drama llama stuff starts a few months down the line.

Yes and some women need to raise the bar as well.

A man simply loving his kids does not automatically make him a 'fantastic father' as we so often read.

It's easy to love your kids and play with them now and again if you have a woman picking up everything else that goes with raising them.