My partner took a loan out several months ago and didn’t tell me which pissed me off but it was to consolidate a load of smaller debts so I was like ok. I have just found out that he has done it again and I only found out because he said he was going to spend more on me for Christmas and to forget about some money I owed him so I outright asked him and he admitted it. I am really annoyed that he has done this again and not discussed it with me especially given what I told him the last time he did it. To complicate matters further he has complex PTSD which I am really struggling with and he views everything as a criticism so I can’t say anything to him. When I got back from work he asked me what was wrong and I just looked at him as if to say well obviously the loan you took out and he just turns it around to say I’m going to set him PTSD off etc. Basically I’m the bad guy, he is in the wrong but I’m the bad guy. I feel exhausted with this and the loan situation has really just made me feel like he doesn’t value me enough to talk to me.