To take son out of nursery?

[NoSleepMum7]

Our first son (2y 5m) started nursery in September, as we had our second son in August, and he’s been going 3 full days a week. He loves it there and his speech has been amazing since he started going, he’s doing SO well, but I feel like every other week there’s a new illness there. I’m not sure if it’s because of winter and obviously kids immune systems are a bit useless, so I get the colds and stuff but I feel like it’s so constant it’s starting to worry me. Our baby is now 4 months old and I’m not exaggerating when I say I’m pretty sure he’s been ill more than he’s been well, he’s had a cold basically constantly since around 4 weeks old, he’s had a few days between where he gets better but then instantly gets congested and has a vile cough, sniffly, very fussy and unsettled from feeling poorly. The nursery had sickness and diarrhoea in October, so we kept our son off that week to try and limit him catching it which luckily he didn’t. Then November he got hand foot and mouth from there, which was hell as we had to keep him and the baby separate, I was constantly disinfecting everything he touched, my husband worked upstairs while looking after the baby and doing his bottles and naps up there, I had the toddler downstairs and deep cleaned every single night, we used hand sanitiser between touching the kids to try to limit it spreading between them, which luckily it didn’t get the baby. Then they’ve just put another announcement to say another room at the nursery has HFM again - different rooms for different ages obviously but they all share the same garden area and toys. And in between that he’s had basically a constant cold which then we’ve all had too. Now I’m wondering if this is normal and just how it all works, or if the nursery is just slacking on cleaning? Because I swear no one else I know seems to have this many issues with their kids nursery. This is our first time having a kid in nursery so I could just be being silly but it’s making me so worried alllll the time
and I’m debating pulling him out and finding a new nursery. Or is that just what happens at all nursery settings?

please be nice 😂 I have no idea what to expect so if this is relatively normal then I’ll just suck it up but if most places aren’t constantly like this then maybe we should look to go elsewhere? Any advice appreciated!!

We removed my oldest for a couple of weeks last December when we had a newborn because I was so worried about him getting ill. Baby ended up hospitalised a few weeks later with a cold and it was awful, I had the same thoughts about removing him for good but we pushed through. Baby picks up everything his brother gets now but is usually ok/mild and we’re managing. We’ve gone for the chicken pox vaccine though.

All nurseries are the same!

Son has just started college and daughter went back to uni in different housing - they've both been ill constantly.

(Meanwhile I live in the germ pool that is early years and I haven't had so much as a cold in years 💀)

Sorry not sure if I didn’t word my original post properly - I don’t usually do the excessive cleaning like I said every single day, it was literally only while the toddler had HFM because I was so paranoid about the baby catching it and not being able to feed properly if he got sores in his mouth. The colds and stuff we just deal with and keep to our usual basic household cleaning (vacuuming, wiping the sides down, mopping, etc like normal) but the mega deep cleaning I was doing was only during the period the toddler had HFM to try and limit the spread of it in our house.

I’m very glad to hear that I’m just being a bit paranoid and that this is fairly normal in a nursery setting! I think with him being our first kid at nursery I wasn’t really sure what to expect or whether this was a fairly normal situation, I just wanted to make sure it wasn’t just that we’d sent him somewhere that was gross if no where else was like it 😂 it’s definitely made me feel better knowing that it’s normal and that hopefully it will help strengthen his immune system - I think having the baby too just makes me super worried at times about whether he’ll catch things while he’s so young and get really ill. we will keep pushing through, thank you all so much!! X

Kids pick up things in nursery playgroups school it is normal. Kids in groups one gets something it goes around it’s how kids also build immunity. It’s not because nursery is dirty if it was you would see that. It’s because they mix with more kids so catch more things that go around it will be the same when they start school. Normal.