AIBU? Will she get sick

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MummaHud · 15/12/2025 15:37

As my 5 year old was running out of school today, a little boy in her class that has been off sick - mum explained in our group WhatsApp as ‘sickness with stomach pains’ since Wednesday last week was with his mum, collecting his older sister ( he was off school again today )

and he saw my daughter and ran over, and loosely cuddled her for no more than 3 seconds.

she didn’t touch her face the whole way home and I’ve washed her clothes and she’s already had a bath. She’s got a fear of throwing up ever since she has the norovirus last year.

im now worried she’s going to get it and how it’ll make her feel.

his household and elder sister hasn’t got it, so I’m hopeful it’s not something that’s contagious & it’s more so, something he’s eaten or something.

his mum has text me:

“Sorry that he got right in your daughter’s face! I think he’s just really missed everyone. He’s a lot better today, back to eating normal meals. Will be back in school tomorrow morning for the nativity.xx”

how long until she will show symptoms? I’m full of worry as I’ve got a vulnerable 18 month old too!

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Lmnop22 · 15/12/2025 15:42

You’re massively over reacting. She will be fine, and has as much chance getting something from anyone else in the class whether symptomatic or not than from a brief touch from this boy.

This sounds like germaphobia and you need to seek help because having your daughter not touch her fact, strip off and have an immediate bath because she touched a boy with stomach pains is, kindly, totally insane.

Megifer · 15/12/2025 15:43

Possibly a few days but she'll very likely be ok try not to worry. He was probably infectious when he was still in school before he actually got sick so if shes been ok chances are a fleeting loose hug wouldn't pass it on, especially if he feels better now

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MummaHud · 15/12/2025 15:44

Lmnop22 · 15/12/2025 15:42

You’re massively over reacting. She will be fine, and has as much chance getting something from anyone else in the class whether symptomatic or not than from a brief touch from this boy.

She was actually incredibly muddy from forest school, so I would’ve and told her that she needs to take the muddy clothes off and hop in the bath the minute she gets in regardless. I, KINDLY, didn’t mention the germs to her. In fact, she did me as he hasn’t been at school the past 4 days and she said ‘I don’t want to be sick again mummy’. So please don’t pass judgement. Thanks.

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DappledThings · 15/12/2025 15:44

You've massively overreacted. I wouldn't have done any of those washing things you've done and I wouldn't have been giving it a second thought.

fungibletoken · 15/12/2025 16:14

Ah your poor DD. A very bad bout of sickness can stick with you. That said, from what you've said I'd hope it's pretty unlikely he's still contagious anyway, and she'll be fine.

Sickness bugs tend to run their course after a day or two, by their nature. If he was first ill on Wednesday last week and based on what his mum said I expect he's probably recovered and just a bit wobbly from not eating/drinking much for a few days. All the best 💐

ChloeMorningstar · 15/12/2025 16:18

I'm going with the overreaction as well, you need to teach your dd not to be afraid of being sick as much as you can. You'll only be setting her up for a very sad adulthood if you cannot.

I know its tough to change your mindset.

BotterMon · 15/12/2025 16:18

If he's back in school tomorrow she'll be fine!

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