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To think housing in this country is fundamentally broken?

426 replies

BrokenHousingLogic · 15/12/2025 15:25

Whether you rent privately, rent socially or own, it feels like the system isn’t really working for anyone.

• Rents are high and insecure
• Buying is out of reach for many
• Social housing is under strain
• Landlords and tenants feel pitted against each other
• Local authorities seem overwhelmed

It often feels like people are arguing with each other instead of addressing the fact that the whole structure is failing.

AIBU to think this goes beyond individual choices and points to a system-wide problem?

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 26/12/2025 22:55

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 22:46

It’s a shame but that’s on her. I assume she’s got savings and a mortgage paid off if she’s burning through money on private school though. I’m covered. My husband’s covered. Everyone I know has this sort of cover. You’d be a fool not to.

And the award for smugness and being unable to read the room goes to....

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:05

MistressoftheDarkSide · 26/12/2025 22:52

Not everyone has the means to incorporate such insurance into their monthly budger. Not everyone meets the criteria for the right insurance for the particular circumstance. I can't get life insurance because I was sectioned due to psychosis once. I have a piddly funeral plan instead, and never put my heating on. My late DP had undiagnosed cancer when it killed him really suddenly.

Being responsible isn't as easy as you make out.

And that’s shit but you live with the consequences. You sing expect the state to pay to keep you in a nice area when you could live somewhere cheaper.

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:10

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:05

And that’s shit but you live with the consequences. You sing expect the state to pay to keep you in a nice area when you could live somewhere cheaper.

Yes, move all the poor people to shit cheaper ghettos areas. We don't want them bringing the value of your house down, do we 🙄

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:11

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 22:43

Why did they not make provisions for this possibility? Life insurance? Sickness insurance? That’s what responsible people do. It’s like not insuring your house then bleating about being financially ruined when it burns to the ground. Responsibility for your own actions.

Ha, insurance. How predictable.

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:15

MistressoftheDarkSide · 26/12/2025 22:55

And the award for smugness and being unable to read the room goes to....

There’s no ‘room reading’ to be done. It could happen to ANY of us, but the state can’t afford to bail us all out. We have to make provisions for ourselves.

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:17

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:15

There’s no ‘room reading’ to be done. It could happen to ANY of us, but the state can’t afford to bail us all out. We have to make provisions for ourselves.

And some people can not afford to make provisions for themselves, hence why we have the state to help to begin with.

JenniferBooth · 26/12/2025 23:17

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 22:43

Why did they not make provisions for this possibility? Life insurance? Sickness insurance? That’s what responsible people do. It’s like not insuring your house then bleating about being financially ruined when it burns to the ground. Responsibility for your own actions.

Ok then lets pay care workers more so that they can afford to pay for these policies The care home fees for your elderly relative will go up but responsibilities right?

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:19

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:10

Yes, move all the poor people to shit cheaper ghettos areas. We don't want them bringing the value of your house down, do we 🙄

Why should we pay for them to be in more expensive areas? Yet to hear a good reason for this.

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:20

JenniferBooth · 26/12/2025 23:17

Ok then lets pay care workers more so that they can afford to pay for these policies The care home fees for your elderly relative will go up but responsibilities right?

I know someone who had some sort of sickness insurance. She ended up sick, so is claiming it. It is a percentage of her previous salary. She was on £70k, so she can still afford to have a decent standard of living from it.
I do not know anyone on NMW that has that sort of insurance. If they need UC top ups now, they will need even more if they get insurance pay outs (if that is even possible). Utterly pointless.

Alexandra2001 · 26/12/2025 23:21

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 22:43

Why did they not make provisions for this possibility? Life insurance? Sickness insurance? That’s what responsible people do. It’s like not insuring your house then bleating about being financially ruined when it burns to the ground. Responsibility for your own actions.

You really do have no clue do you?

These types of insurances cost a fortune, esp as you get older.

Talk about M/C wealthy privilege.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 26/12/2025 23:21

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:05

And that’s shit but you live with the consequences. You sing expect the state to pay to keep you in a nice area when you could live somewhere cheaper.

I live in the cheapest area thanks. I spend more time than I care to admit phoning 999 because my addict upstairs neighbours try to kill each other on the regular. I live with consequences of circumstances beyond my control 24 /7 thanks, and have doors slammed in my face on the regular when I try to escape state dependency. Lookinh forward to when assisted dying comes in and they extend it Canada style for the poor and depressed.

That will make you happy I'm sure.

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:22

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:19

Why should we pay for them to be in more expensive areas? Yet to hear a good reason for this.

Do you not like unemployed people living near you? Or low paid people? Who do vital jobs in places where housing costs more.

Alexandra2001 · 26/12/2025 23:24

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:19

Why should we pay for them to be in more expensive areas? Yet to hear a good reason for this.

Oh so wealthier areas don't need TA's? Supermarket staff? Healthcare assistants? Carers? etc etc... maybe we could pay a bit extra to bus them in from the northern regions? or perhaps a tent city?

YouHaveAnArse · 26/12/2025 23:25

Balletpoint · 26/12/2025 21:13

I am referring to the young at the beginning of their career. If someone makes unwise choices in life, career or marriage it is tough but it shouldn't be something the tax payer needs to sort out.

Many on mumsnet need to learn the importance of personal responsibility and take pride in their life and own their decisions.

But there are now people living in houseshares/renting into their 30s and 40s, or doing so again post relationship breakdown/divorce.

You also don't seem to realise what this means for the people already living in these areas who will now be seeing prices going up and available housing stock dwindling.

An experiment for you: look up the current price of the first home you owned, and then adjust the salary you were on when you bought it for inflation. Could you afford to buy it now? How about renting it?

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:33

Alexandra2001 · 26/12/2025 23:24

Oh so wealthier areas don't need TA's? Supermarket staff? Healthcare assistants? Carers? etc etc... maybe we could pay a bit extra to bus them in from the northern regions? or perhaps a tent city?

I have lived in many different parts of the uk (in order to further my career, ironically enough) and I’ve not lived anywhere yet where there has been an exclusively middle class area with no deprived areas near by. In fact there’s the very poorest of the poor living closer to my kids school than I do. Even in London TAs must be able to get a tube train in from a cheaper area. This is not an issue at all.

Yellowshirt · 26/12/2025 23:36

Alexandra2001 · 26/12/2025 19:06

Do you know how either council or social housing works?

Basically, a private developer builds a house, a council or housing association has commissioned or buys that house and rents it out.... where does the upfront money come from?

In the main from taxation.

Who wants lower taxes? and who wants housing built somewhere miles from where they live?

The Tories had 14 years to fix, yet didn't so presumably you think they had no one with any common sense either....

Stopping Right to buy, creates no new housing and Labour have already said that any council house sold, must be replaced by another.

Stopping immigration.... so no students, no carers, no slaughter house workers or construction ?

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You don't think the 9 million people already out of work can possibly go out and do some of them jobs?
Right to buy helped my parents. They bought a house for £19000. Plenty of houses have been built but the country is full.
What hasn't worked is mass immigration. It has to stop. What is the government waiting for? An absolute disaster where people are dying because hospitals can no longer cope.
It's shear incompetence. I'm paying taxes every single month and getting zero back

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:36

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:22

Do you not like unemployed people living near you? Or low paid people? Who do vital jobs in places where housing costs more.

Guess what, within 5 minutes walk I have the lowest 10% of social deprivation housing. I live in the top 10%. Many, many cities are like this. Such a bizarre argument. Birmingham, Sheffield, Manchester, Bristol, Leeds, Newcastle, Glasgow, Edinburgh. Open your eyes.

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:37

Yellowshirt · 26/12/2025 23:36

You don't think the 9 million people already out of work can possibly go out and do some of them jobs?
Right to buy helped my parents. They bought a house for £19000. Plenty of houses have been built but the country is full.
What hasn't worked is mass immigration. It has to stop. What is the government waiting for? An absolute disaster where people are dying because hospitals can no longer cope.
It's shear incompetence. I'm paying taxes every single month and getting zero back

There is not 9 million job vacancies. There is not even a million.

JenniferBooth · 26/12/2025 23:38

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:33

I have lived in many different parts of the uk (in order to further my career, ironically enough) and I’ve not lived anywhere yet where there has been an exclusively middle class area with no deprived areas near by. In fact there’s the very poorest of the poor living closer to my kids school than I do. Even in London TAs must be able to get a tube train in from a cheaper area. This is not an issue at all.

I bet you were one of the ones spouting how we are all in this together during Covid

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:39

Housing in the UK is like a giant game of musical chairs. There isn’t enough housing for everyone. People are going to be living in B&Bs etc as the governments aren’t interested in building more housing. It’s a tragedy. But pouring money into deprived people so they can continue living in e.g. Fulham instead of a less expensive area helps no one.

MeouwKing · 26/12/2025 23:39

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:37

There is not 9 million job vacancies. There is not even a million.

So surely, that's the end of mass immigration?

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:40

JenniferBooth · 26/12/2025 23:38

I bet you were one of the ones spouting how we are all in this together during Covid

I don’t know what you are on about.

JenniferBooth · 26/12/2025 23:41

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:40

I don’t know what you are on about.

Course you dont 🙄

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:45

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:36

Guess what, within 5 minutes walk I have the lowest 10% of social deprivation housing. I live in the top 10%. Many, many cities are like this. Such a bizarre argument. Birmingham, Sheffield, Manchester, Bristol, Leeds, Newcastle, Glasgow, Edinburgh. Open your eyes.

So why are you banging on about them having to move away to save money on HB?

tiredofchristmas · 26/12/2025 23:47

XenoBitch · 26/12/2025 23:45

So why are you banging on about them having to move away to save money on HB?

There’s lots of people who think the government should keep them living in a certain area, just because they’ve always lived there, when there could be FAR cheaper places that they could be housed. If you’re living off the state you shouldn’t get a choice where you live.

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