Is wishing someone good luck for going to church offensive?

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I did briefly mention this in a comment in my previous post but I’m creating a new post for advice!

This weekend my ex took my son to chat to a priest about possibly attending church as he’s been showing an interest in exploring his faith. I’m currently on holiday with our youngest and I text my son “Good luck with church today, Tom!”

I then text my ex to ask about meeting our son after school on Monday as I was coming back Monday morning from the holiday. He said, yeah ask Tom but I will say that wishing him good luck before meeting a priest did not go down well. Umm. What?

I thought he was joking and asked him are you serious and he said it did not go down well, that’s all he can say.

What the hell! Ex refused to say exactly why it didn’t go down well and say it was a weird thing to say and how upset our son is. Eh?!

Teen isn’t replying to my texts about meeting him after school but he never replies anyway lol.

Ex didn’t correct DS and say don’t worry, Mum was just wishing you well. It seems he went along with DS in assuming I had sinister intentions!

AIBU in texting good luck?

I'm not religious, but wishing someone 'Good Luck' whehoig yi church is weird& yes, offensive. Why would someone need luck to go to church?

an exam. Yep
Rugby match yep

church nope.

if you wanted to wish him well, you should have taken the time to phrase if more appropriately.

but they're being weird linking your comment to SA.

It's a bit weird ye

Going to explore your faith isn't the same as sitting an exam or playing a rugby match. It's not something you learn or study or practise for. It's about a spiritual connection, an exploration of belief.

"Wishing you all the best", "hope it goes well" or "hope that you find what you're looking for" might have been better than a "good luck"

No.

Exam - the unknown result - good luck
Rugby - the unknown result - good luck
Church - the unknown result - good luck

I think people of faith who are having a go at the OP for wishing her son good luck in his endeavours to find his faith are showing themselves up as not very good or kind people. This isn't an attack on your faith, this is wishing a young lad good luck on his exploration into what faith might work for his beliefs.

And maybe it's not a faith that harbours people so narrow minded as to think that 'good luck' is pejorative to someone finding their way in the spiritual world. If you genuinely think what the OP said is in anyway offensive - having been given all of the context and told the intention - then you are looking for offence.

And shame on you frankly - whatever your religion. You are exclusionary, self-important and chastising. I don't know what religion espouses that nastiness.

It’s obvious that you meant ‘I hope your meeting at the church goes well x’ and that your Ex is deliberately shit-stirring.

Ignore him, like everyone says.

Its not like you said 'good luck and make sure you keep your back to a wall'.

So just follow up with a text saying, hope it went well and proud of you for following your heart and your beliefs.

Quite. Why would that even cross someone’s mind, that a mother would text that to her boy? Some minds, eh.

It’s a nice thing to have texted him but luck is kind of the opposite of faith. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Ask him how it went and say sorry, you just didn’t think before sending the text like that.

I think people of faith who are having a go at the OP for wishing her son good luck in his endeavours to find his faith are showing themselves up as not very good or kind people.

No one is having a go. OP asked a question about whether it was offensive and people are offering up replies which explain why it might be seen that way