A few friends and I decided to cook for our friend who just had a baby. We’re not overly close, she’s more a mutual friend for me but I like to help out where I can (I’ve been there).
i texted to say congratulations on the birth, and then a week later I message to ask how things are going and when is best for me to drop off the meal on the day that I signed up for.
A few days later I get a response and all it said was could I take it to one of her friends house (the other side of town) at a specific time. I have 3 kids and I’m a working mum so I apologised and said I wouldn’t be able to drop it there because of my commitments and their house is actually only a short walk from mine so I was hoping to drop it there. I get no response for days.
i message on the day to say I’ve got the meal ready and will drop it off in the evening once my kids are in bed, again I ask how things are going. No reply comes and it’s now the evening…so I just message to say I will leave the bag of food on their doorstep. Finally I get a reply that just says thanks, we’re actually out at a friends house anyway.
It was 7pm at this point and the baby was only a few weeks old. I really struggled at that stage so thought I was helping, but I don’t know why, I feel a bit upset about the situation. I didn’t do it for any kind of recognition and I didn’t expect to even see her or the baby. I just found it odd, if they didn’t want the food then I wouldn’t have been offended, they didn’t confirm that they got it.
I know postpartum trenches and tiredness etc. but I still remember making an effort to really thank anyone that came to visit or bring food.