That parenting is all on me even when I’m very unwell

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for context I have a reception aged child with autistic and learning difficulties, hes very high care needs. I can’t take my eyes off of him for a minute without something being broken flooded or swallowed. My husband works full time and decided to pick up weekend work even though I said I wasn’t happy.
we don’t really need the extra money so I said no as constantly cooking cleaning and 247 care giving is exhausting on me. My child has been ill this week very ill so his behaviour and violence understandably has been awful I’ve been bitten punched kicked and scratched, I’m covered in marksand bruises, ( he’s non verbal) and only get aggressive and violent when something is going on or he’s unwell. I’m now really unwell myself and my son thank god is feeling a lot better but then he’s really energetic and I just haven’t got the strength. My husband again has decided to f*ckoff out to have his hair cut and see his sister while again I’m left home. In the past hour I’ve cleaned and washed my son as he’s smeared everywhere ( poo)
im raging like really really fuming that this is all on me constantly Aibu

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with all of this. That sounds utterly exhausting and frightening, especially being physically hurt while you’re unwell yourself. Anyone would be raging in your position. You’re not failing, you’re being asked to carry far too much on your own.

You poor woman.
In your position I would be tempted to pack a bag and walk out when he comes home, book into a cheap hotel and take a few days rest.
He needs to spend time with his child, whether he wants to or not.
He is clearly avoiding parenting.
You need to protect yourself however you can, from child and husband.

He’s actively avoiding dealing with all this and leaving it all to you.
I’d tell him if he doesn’t do his fair share you will be contacting social services to have your child taken in to care before you have a nervous breakdown.

This sounds awful. He is opting out of being a parent.

Can you just go out without telling him to force him to step up?