Are you a bad person or think you are?

[Darkplace189]

Do you ever get the feeling you’re a bad person?

I’m in a real bad place and questioning everything about myself. I have made some mistakes at work recently and I’m questioning whether I’m good enough. My marriage is not the most straightforward. I’m estranged from family. I wonder if my friends are fed up of me and wonder if the people who compliment me are just deluded and don’t know the real me?

Im feeling really crap. Pls be kind.

Hi, I’m sorry to hear this.

Mistakes at work haunt me for literally years. I can stop in my tracks thinking of them. I also think anyone paying me a compliment is lying.

but none of that makes me think I am a bad person. I have low self esteem.

is this feeling new? Is there anything you can do lifestyle wise that might help boost your mood? Exercise, fresh air etc? Going to docs?

im really sorry you feel like this and hope it doesn’t last too long.

Thanks for your reply.

It’s not very new but I’ve recently had a traumatic experience and I think it could have made things worse off the back of it.

It’s very common after a trauma to have negative thoughts about yourself. Try to think of it as your mind trying to process what happened, our minds lie to us - once you really understand that you can start gently challenging those negative thoughts. You’re recovering from something traumatic, give yourself some grace.