Everything she says is a lie....

purplehairrinse · 2025-12-13T14:06:13+00:00

I have a friend and I don't know if im being over sensitive. I feel like everything is a lie and she makes up stories, changes the narrative etc to suit her. I don't think I'll call her out on it, but I just try and limit contact with her. I don't know if I can be specific because she might read this thread but I'll try. She's one of two children and she has a child (Dad not around). The grandparents suggested going to their house for food after the mornings presents etc. she's turned it around that they won't go to hers, they are making remarks like our house is bigger etc which is seen as an not picking. Not sure if her brother will be joining them on Christmas day but everything just seems to be an issue. There have been other stories such as "I was going to enroll at such a nursery but they lost my application, another demanded money whilst I had my sick child in hospital to keep the place etc". Everything is blown up and not straight forward.

LargeJugs · 13/12/2025 14:12

Ditch them. It isn’t worth the drama.

something2say · 13/12/2025 14:14

Do the slow fade.

Reclaim your own energy and stop ruminating on her actions.

ComfortFoodCafe · 13/12/2025 14:48

Just ghost them. They sound like a headache.

BillieWiper · 13/12/2025 14:57

Those things aren't lies though. They are just her seeing things in a negative and dramatic way.

She obviously is very chaotic and needs to feel like she has someone to blame when things don't go her way. And she probably enjoys having some kind of victim status.

I do know people like this to varying degrees. It can be due to past trauma or MH issues. Or it's just their personality.

Does she bring anything positive to the relationship? Do you enjoy anything about her company? Is she supportive? If not then I'd say let the friendship fade away.

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 14:57

How do I know it's not just me? And everything is factual

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JLou08 · 13/12/2025 15:00

There's nothing in your post that I picked up as being a lie. Is there more to it than what you wrote or are you just assuming they lie?

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 15:03

JLou08 · 13/12/2025 15:00

There's nothing in your post that I picked up as being a lie. Is there more to it than what you wrote or are you just assuming they lie?

This is the first I've heard of her wanting to send her child to X nursery and being refused a place. It just seems like a pattern like Jay from In-Betweeners.

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 15:03

BillieWiper · 13/12/2025 14:57

Those things aren't lies though. They are just her seeing things in a negative and dramatic way.

She obviously is very chaotic and needs to feel like she has someone to blame when things don't go her way. And she probably enjoys having some kind of victim status.

I do know people like this to varying degrees. It can be due to past trauma or MH issues. Or it's just their personality.

Does she bring anything positive to the relationship? Do you enjoy anything about her company? Is she supportive? If not then I'd say let the friendship fade away.

100% yes thank you.

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youalright · 13/12/2025 15:08

I had a friend like this had being the world

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 15:08

JLou08 · 13/12/2025 15:00

There's nothing in your post that I picked up as being a lie. Is there more to it than what you wrote or are you just assuming they lie?

I don't think she ever enrolled at the nursery.

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ComtesseDeSpair · 13/12/2025 15:11

I think if you’ve reached a point where you want to “call somebody out” on what sounds like fairly mundane trivia which doesn’t involve you, it’s probably best to just start letting the friendship cool, it’s not benefitting either of you any more. Beyond that, if you do want to remain friends, your approach to things like this needs to change, you’re getting overly wrapped up in it - she couldn’t get a nursery place, that’s a shame; frustrating Christmas arrangements, it’ll get sorted, she should just do what she wants to this year if her parents don’t want to come to her and she doesn’t want to go to them. You don’t have to analyse the details.

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 15:29

ComtesseDeSpair · 13/12/2025 15:11

I think if you’ve reached a point where you want to “call somebody out” on what sounds like fairly mundane trivia which doesn’t involve you, it’s probably best to just start letting the friendship cool, it’s not benefitting either of you any more. Beyond that, if you do want to remain friends, your approach to things like this needs to change, you’re getting overly wrapped up in it - she couldn’t get a nursery place, that’s a shame; frustrating Christmas arrangements, it’ll get sorted, she should just do what she wants to this year if her parents don’t want to come to her and she doesn’t want to go to them. You don’t have to analyse the details.

No the issue is it from 80% of what she says when we have a conversation. She didn't apply for that nursery.

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OopOop · 13/12/2025 15:37

purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 15:08

I don't think she ever enrolled at the nursery.

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But how would you know if she did or didn’t, other than what she’s told you?

ComtesseDeSpair · 13/12/2025 15:51

In the space of a few posts you’ve gone from questioning whether you’re the odd one because it’s possible everything she says could be factual, to not thinking she ever applied at the nursery, to knowing she definitely didn’t apply at the nursery. It all sounds very muddled for you, but it also sounds as though it’s not really a friendship of much benefit of either you or her. Let it cool, and focus on your other friendships.

harriethoyle · 13/12/2025 16:04

I had a friend like this. She told some whoppers - including that she’d been engaged, that she’d had a flat in central London, that she’d had a miscarriage, that she’d had cancer and, more hilariously, that her mum (who was not a professional artist) had done the calligraphy on Kate and William’s wedding invites 🤣🤣

you’ll note the past tense. It just got too exhausting and I very gently faded her out. I don’t miss the endless drama.

OopOop · 13/12/2025 16:05

harriethoyle · 13/12/2025 16:04

I had a friend like this. She told some whoppers - including that she’d been engaged, that she’d had a flat in central London, that she’d had a miscarriage, that she’d had cancer and, more hilariously, that her mum (who was not a professional artist) had done the calligraphy on Kate and William’s wedding invites 🤣🤣

you’ll note the past tense. It just got too exhausting and I very gently faded her out. I don’t miss the endless drama.

The thing is, all of these things are pretty outlandish and mainly easily disproven. All the OP has is ‘she said she’d applied to a nursery but I don’t think she applied to that nursery, but I don’t actually know whether she did or not’.

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 16:09

OopOop · 13/12/2025 15:37

But how would you know if she did or didn’t, other than what she’s told you?

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Because the nursery is 3 miles from her house and she's always had her kid at X nursery due to cost and convenience

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 16:48

She's also said parents don't help out, won't help out with childcare etc. yet they do nursery pick up and also gone on holiday together 3 times this year. When asked it's because"cheaper to share accommodation".

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OopOop · 13/12/2025 16:51

Rather than analysing her life and everything she says, why not just accept that the friendship isn’t working and take a step back? You’re giving this person a lot of head space considering you don’t seem to like her much.

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purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 16:55

OopOop · 13/12/2025 16:51

Rather than analysing her life and everything she says, why not just accept that the friendship isn’t working and take a step back? You’re giving this person a lot of head space considering you don’t seem to like her much.

See her all the time....

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OopOop · 13/12/2025 16:55

purplehairrinse · 13/12/2025 16:55

See her all the time....

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Can’t you stop seeing her all the time?

Funkytuna · 14/12/2025 17:15

nothing you’ve said seems like outlandish lies or her being a constant source of drama. Just sounds like she’s having a general moan about her life’s mundane annoyances, as friends do, but you don’t like her so are making it more than what it is in your head.

Parsleyforme · 14/12/2025 17:37

Sounds like a bit of a drama llama and the type of person who thinks the world is always against them. Also possibly the type of person who makes up stories in their head and believes them to be true. Can’t you just swerve her and not listen to her latest woes?

MissRaspberry · 14/12/2025 18:44

It isn't even worth calling her out on her lying. It's not like any of these daft lies affect you personally. Honestly if you don't like her just end the friendship