To think the biggest difference between family Christmas' is whether you dress up or not

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This is a light-hearted one after some frankly depressing threads this morning!

But after having a few blended Christmas' now the biggest difference doesn't seem to be when you eat, whether you have turkey or not, if you have alcohol from 6am onwards but whether you dress up. My family is firmly in the pyjamas from Christmas Eve to boxing day camp, we might throw on some different leggings to go for a walk, but hey we're wearing big coats so is it really needed?! But we then go to some houses and suddenly everyone is super fancy, wearing heels inside the house and maybe even changing again for dinner.

I feel like all Christmas invitations should come with a dress code!

YABU = No clearly there's something else to watch out for with a Christmas invite because other families are crazy
YANBU = I've also been incorrectly dressed at another family's Christmas

Yes very special. We were very lucky ❤️

I hate the pyjamas thing. I don't judge it in other people - obviously do what you like! But for me, pyjamas when not in bed signify illness or depressingness, not special occasions!

There are a few differences between the way my family does Christmas Day and the way my in-laws do. It mostly comes down to timings of meals, present opening etc and the fact that the the tv never goes on with my family. We play more games than the in-laws too.

I always dress up! Even when I’ve been invited to more casual Christmasses. It’s a special occasion, plus I love an excuse to dress up tbh as I’m pretty casual in every day life.

I cannot get on board with wearing pyjamas during any daytime - never mind Christmas.

Have some decorum people :)

Jeans are very comfortable clothes that

Yes, it's not like guests would go round to someone's house in pyjamas any other time of the year, surely, so why do it on a special day like Christmas? Boxing Day is pyjama/relaxing day in our house. I want to chill and slob out, but Christmas Day is for fine things! 😬

I don’t even wear them at night. I just don’t understand the fascination.

Who are these (possibly drunk) posters imagining that anyone shows up at someone else’s home for. Christmas lunch in pyjamas? 🧐

My family always dresses for Christmas. We decide on theme colours and everyone dresses to the theme. This year it’s red, pink, white, gold and silver.

I’m wearing a pink linen shell top and matching bias cut midi skirt, silver sandals. And pearl snowman earrings and a Christmas headband.

Even years when my ex husband and I spent Christmas Day on our own we’d still dress up for lunch and set the table with the best china etc.

We are not a family who dress up
for christmas. We host for a lot of people, it’s a large scale operation and I’m not doing that dressed in my fancy clothes. We do presents then get showered and changed into clean but comfortable house clothes. Everyone who joins us is also in comfortable clothing made for sitting about playing games and eating. Loose fitting clothes mainly!
I’ll most likely be in my leggings and a sweatshirt. I don’t give a crap what anyone else turns up in, wear your best party dress if you want!
No pyjamas for me, I don’t even own a pair as I sleep naked which is a bit much even for our informal christmas 😂

I’m from a council flat background and we always wore our best clothes Christmas Day.

I felt a proper idiot staying at aristo uni boyfriends for Christmas and finding they all stayed in pyjamas all day, even his intimidating dowager style grandmother.

Pre-Christmas jumpers, I just wore a red, green or sparkly top with jeans. Nowadays, usually a Christmas jumper and jeans. Anyone who visits wears similar. When I was little, I'd wear a velvety dress like others have mentioned.

I couldn't ever wear pyjamas during the day. I'd never feel ready and able to get on with stuff!

I don't wear PJs during the day unless I'm ill. It feels wrong.

I had to read your op twice, are you honestly saying you go to peoples houses in Xmas day in your pyjamas?

What about the people who just wear their regular clothes? In our house we put on the normal things we'd wear on a winter weekend. Staying in pajamas would remind me of being ill and depress me, and dressing up seems a bit daft to faff about with a turkey and then sit in my own house.

Neither of us own a Christmas jumper

We do get up and dressed though, as the dog needs a walk. Normally fleece leggings and a big jumper for me, trousers and a warm top for DH.

Well those are extreme examples aren’t they what @5128gap writes is my experience. I will put on trousers and a Christmas jumper probably.

I think as long as you don't wear pyjamas when hosting or go visiting in your sleeping attire you'll be fine!

When we are guests (or have guests) we dress up.

Just the immediate family then whatever we want. I'm sure we all had Xmas 2020 in our pj's.

Not getting dressed in proper clothes makes me feel lazy and unmotivated. I don't feel like the day has started until I am dressed.

I don't own any pyjamas, but own lots of comfortable clothes. My Ninepine joggers look smart but are extremely comfortable, especially when overindulging. I will either wear a nice top or a Christmas jumper.

No pjs here but I never wear any anyway. As a child we always got smartly dressed for Christmas, now as long as people are dressed I don’t care what they wear.

You do what you want in your own house but surely you dress up when you are invited somewhere? You don't turn up in pjs or leggins for diner, so why Christmas would be different?

I don't even stay in my pjs when I am ill unless I am really passed out, so I dont really understand the appeal but each to their own.

I can't even remember where I read (or was it in the Crown?) that Kate Middleton was very smug about her entire family in pjs on Christmas morning when William looked a bit bemused the first time. It might even be true, who knows (or really, who cares 😂. It will be Meghan's fault either way 😂.)

I think if you buy jeans the right size, they are just as comfy as any other trousers. Maybe people buy them 3 sizes too small? I never understand why they are so "uncomfortable".

Don't get me started on bras - I'd live in sports bras if they didn't look often unflattering under clothes 😂. How can anyone find bras the right size not comfy?

You sound lovely , can I be one of your friends?