For telling someone that I didn’t want to catch their cold?

[Senso]

I was at a party last night and an acquaintance came over to talk to me. She opened with “ugh, I’ve caught whatever’s been going round and feeling really unwell.”

I was quite cross because I don’t want to get ill! So I said “I dont mean to be rude but I don’t wish to catch your bug so please excuse me” and walked away.

What would you have done?

Abrupt but fair enough!

I probably wouldn't have been so blatant and would have excused myself to go to the toilet and then avoided her. I would have absolutely been thinking it though.

Who goes to a party just before Christmas with a bug.

Stay at home if you feel like that. You could pick up germs anywhere.

I would have just carried on the conversation until it came to a natural end and then moved on. I’m not especially worried about catching a cold.
Although if I were feeling rubbish and coldy I wouldn’t have gone to the party in the first place, I’d have been at home in front of my fire!

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. It was inconsiderate and rude of her to go to an event with a communicable disease, especially just before Christmas.

Probably exactly the same. If people choose to come out when they’re ill thats up to them but don’t expect me to spend time in their company. I think it’s quite selfish to go to a social event and pass your bugs on to someone else especially if you know you’re ill.

I'd of asked her why she came to the party if she feels so unwell, it's really selfish and I'd be really annoyed to.

There’s viruses everywhere. You’ll catch something soon enough anyway

Yeah I think if you feel strongly enough about this you probably should stay at home. You can’t avoid coming into contact with pathogens if you’re socialising with people at this time of year. You’re just as likely to get it from someone asymptomatic.

I’d have done the same as you, it was her choice to come out when feeling crappy and equally your choice to tell her you don’t want to be around her when she’s feeling crappy.

Yes there’s always the chance you’ll pick up a bug when out and about but you can reduce the chances of that by not spending time with people you 100% know are ill!

A man sneezed near me and dd in asda, I gracefully bent over her to keep us both safe

*gracefully/dramatically haphazardly 🤷‍♀️

Oh don't you just love people who shower you with their germs and then tell you that they have a stinking cold,or are possible going down with the flu? 🤬

exactly. And I find it unbelievablly selfish to go to a party when you’re feeling dreadful, especially with this super flu in the news.

it’s not like it was a work do.

I was eating out last weekend. As a diner walked past my table, she turned her head towards me and coughed, I felt the draught...no hand to mouth to stop her germs landing on me and my food...some people are so ignorant.

I think you did right if you are afraid of catching germs, I wish I could be so outspoken.

I used to have a friend that would let me visit them when they had stinking colds/various illnesses. There wouldn't be any prior warning beforehand or if have told them I'd give it a miss that week. So I'd have also not wanted to stand and chat with someone with a cold if I had a choice and I in don't blame you for telling her so and walking away. Very selfish of people to think everyone else wants their germs!