To think adulthood has become far too therapy-speak centric?

[CleverGoldSwan]

Every discussion now seems to involve “trauma,” “boundaries,” “emotional labour,” “attachment styles,” etc. I’m not dismissing mental health at all but AIBU to think we’re pathologising normal human frustrations?
Not everything is a wound that needs unpacking.

Sometimes things are just life.

Sorry to sound like a merciless old fart but the phrase “my journey” is just putrid 🤮 imho.

And whenever anyone mentions “my truth” , I am tempted to ask “but what about everyone else’s?”

I say my truth to stop belligerent people arguing with me about what I feel.

Hear me out. I, personally think, it is rather excellent that we are challenging "normal human interactions". I am specifically thinking about you mentioning emotional labour. This concept is something that nobody was really aware of until very recently because is was "normal" and assumed that women would be the ones planning the meals, keeping track of everyone's appointments, working towards resolving conflicts and generally overperforming in their relationships. Often, unappreciated, I may add.
I, myself, have been worried sick for the last three years thinking I had depression, thyroid condition, chronic fatigue, sleep disorder, perimenopause... you name it. It wasn't until my relationship ended and I moved out to live alone, I discovered that my overwhelming fatigue and daytime sleepiness disappeared overnight. Because now I do zero emotional labour. So, do I assume emotional labour is "normal" modus operandi or do you think it may actually be beneficial to understand the phenomenon so that I don't overperform in my next relationship? For me, the answer is clear.

Now, do we need to be diagnosing everyone with narcissism? No. Is it helpful to have some understanding of anxieties around abandonment which inform how we behave in relationships? I think, yes.
We can take everything to the extreme whether it's "therapy speak" or "it's normal because that's how we did things for millennia". I think we should aim for balance in-between these two.

Agree. Exhausting. Stop gazing at your own belly button and get on with things.

Yeah - I think it might be this. Young people are more frequently on social media in general, and I think this kind of strange navel-gazing language is something that might be picked up there. To me it comes across as very self-centred (and slightly embarrassing) but some people seem to find it helpful and perhaps it is me who was brought up to be repressed and hasn't been able to shake this off?

I have a lovely friend who sometimes talks a little like this. She's not that young (40s) but she's very into tech things. I think she is brill but I do find the strange perspectives and language a bit hard to take seriously.

I've only seen this type of bollocks on Mumsnet

Who says we can't do both?

I am a highly qualified professional, a loving daughter, granddaughter, and friend. I work full time, run part time business, exercise daily, volunteer in my local community, read, hike, travel, take care of my cat... And yes, I spend some time every morning reflecting on my inner world and how I can improve my relationship with the outer one.

What else should I be "getting on with" in your opinion?

Yes, the truth is just the truth.

Nobody owns it.

Do you not think this is a quite a simplistic thing to say? Humans are more Nuanced and complex than that.

If I said “when you said xyz you really upset me. You were rude and abusive”

and you said

“it wasn’t rude or abusive”

what’s the truth? Neither. My truth is I’m upset, your truth is you didn’t do anything. You can’t deny me my upset and I can’t deny your indignance

Obviously I don’t know you personally to offer advice but from personal experience I’d say that contemplation and self improvement are no bad thing. However learning not to bore those around you with wet, self indulgent therapy speak is also a real point of self development and I think this is what the op is getting at.

Not in my experience!
I went out with a 66-year-old who told me his ex was a narcissist. I asked what a narcissist is (because I don't know) and he couldn't tell me.
Later he told me very seriously that he experienced trauma if we didn't have sex straight away when he got hard and he lost his erection.
(In case you're wondering, that earned him a talking-to on the misappropriation of the word trauma, and he is now my ex)

It's preferable to "ick" which I see 50 times a day on this site, and not even about romantic relationships any more.

These pat little phrases - like any fashionable languistic trend; there were plenty of equivalents in years gone past - are a double-edged sword. On the one hand they neatly sum up a lot of complex situations and strike a chord with people for that reason. On the other they're reductive and a means of avoiding complexity for people who aren't very clever. You sort of have to take them in their context.

'You're not meeting my needs'. Gah!

All of us have felt anxious about certain things at some point. Never hear that said any more as so many say they have mental health anxiety .

I am guilty of using therapy speak a lot in real life. I have done a lot of therapy, and it saved my life and made it a bit more bearable.
One example that stands out is boundaries. They are vital to me. Without them, I have been hurt and taken advantage of. Through therapy, I learned how to recognise my own values, set boundaries, and have healthier relationships with other people.
What would be the alternative? Grin and bear it , and somehow become more resilient? That did not work, hence needing therapy to start with.

Every discussion where?

That you overhear on the bus? Your teenage children? On TV? Your friends?

I know one person who talks like this, a girl from work. She's a 20 year old student on some arty farty womens lib philosophy humanistic studies waffle waffle blah blah degree. She generally gets ignored or people just nod and change the subject.