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One dog too many…AIBU!?

31 replies

OhSoAsd · 11/12/2025 13:07

I know this is a sensitive subject to many, so please be kind.

We had 2 dogs, male and female who we absolutely adore!! They get on great, they’re used to our routine and we have little no issues with them!
We somehow missed her season, she must not of shown, and nor did we catch any odd behaviours or a tie between them!
You know how it works and 8 weeks later we have a beautiful healthy litter of pups!
it was a wonderful, tiring, beautiful, stressful,expensive 9 weeks before they left for their new homes. My partner so desperately wanted to keep one, so with much persuasion we did.

however….said partner works 60+ hours a week so it was ultimately left down to me to raise, train, walk etc.
She is now 6 months old and I’ve been thinking for the past month or so that it was the wrong decision and just too much with also having mum and dad and our own children…I’ll put my hands up and admit having 3 is probably one dog too much for me….pup is an absolute terror.

No amount of training, walking, playing, puppy classes, crate time, time out etc seems to be doing anything. She ignores her name. She ignores commands that she has previously learnt and done excellent with.
She hangs off mum/dad when biting them to the point they’re screaming out in pain and she refuses to let go. She knows toileting, but now all of a sudden it’s wherever whenever she pleases (access to garden every hour or so alone) She has destroyed the kitchen cupboards, tables, chairs and what not. (Yes she has a million toys of all different types, teething toys, soft toys, harder toys, interactive toys, you name it we’ve probably got it)

I just feel I’m at my limit with it now and maybe she would be better suited to a single dog household where she won’t get the distractions of mum and dad?

this will of course upset my partner but ultimately I am the one losing my mind on a daily trying to control her and cleaning up the destruction she leaves. It is a taking a toll mentally, the dread of what will happen today, or popping out to come home to destruction and toileting all over.

AIBU to want to rehome her?

OP posts:
WhatATimeToBeAlive · 11/12/2025 14:47

OhSoAsd · 11/12/2025 13:33

I didn’t say anything about using a rescue did I? She would be placed with a family member.

I think it would be sensible seeing as you already have a home in mind for her. Your poor other dogs must be going mad.

Ignore the posters having a go at you - what's done is done. Imagine if you were talking about a baby the same way. Plenty of women have unplanned pregnancies - it happens.

piscofrisco · 11/12/2025 16:53

we have three dogs (having been told dog 1 was seriously ill and would imminently die, we got dog 3 as we feared dog2 would be bereft on her own.dog 1 thankfully did not die, the vet having seriously misdiagnosed!). My new motto for life will be ‘never have more dogs than you have hands’. Dog 3 has been a very tough puppy to train and drove me to distraction. However to give some light at the end of the tunnel, we have recently had him neutered and he is like a different dog! The relief is immense! So that might work for you too?

HipHopDontYouStop · 11/12/2025 16:54

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/12/2025 13:33

Why on earth isn't your bitch spayed? I'm sorry but you've been completely irresponsible.

God. Why do posters bother lecturing about what has already happened? Lame and pointless.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 11/12/2025 17:00

It’s hard to be gentle with someone who has a male and female unneutered dog and thinks they needed to catch them at it to stop puppies. Irresponsible and totally on you. What do you want people to say?!

Whaleandsnail6 · 11/12/2025 17:13

HipHopDontYouStop · 11/12/2025 16:54

God. Why do posters bother lecturing about what has already happened? Lame and pointless.

Its a bit shit to decide you want to keep a cute, fluffy pup but then give it away when it is suddenly not a cute, fluffy puppy, as they don't stay like that, but now causing destruction and decide, instead of managing the difficult behaviour, you can't actually be bothered with the puppy anymore

HoskinsChoice · 11/12/2025 19:33

I really think we should pass some kind of test before we are allowed to keep pets. Not neutering your dogs, allowing your poor bitch to go through the trauma of pregnancy without you having any knowledge of how to breed properly, cashing in on this trauma and then dumping a puppy because she's being a puppy. You're all kind of levels of irresponsible. I hope you are appropriately ashamed of yourself.

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