Boss being intimate in his office

[Ksassi]

A colleague recently told me that my boss and his wife are actually not having lunch in his office everyday but getting it on. I’m fairly new to the medium sized business.

I don’t know why but I feel that this is highly inappropriate. I rarely go in the office. And neither do other colleagues it’s where boss does his paperwork mostly as the owner. I just think it’s highly unprofessional. AIBU? It’s a place of work. I told dh and he didn’t see why I was bothered

Unless its a school or children's home, who cares?

I think if it were obvious and you had to listen to it etc then absolutely it would be inappropriate.

I can see how it would make anyone uncomfortable to be unwillingly dragged into someone’s else’s fetish. Getting off that there are people right outside who can hear them or know what they’re doing, or that it’s “the office” and they might get caught. You haven’t consented to be drawn into that sort of game.

However, like I say, if you had no idea it was happening until you were outright told then I would say it’s being kept private enough to be their business. You don’t have to like it but you don’t actually know for yourself that it’s happening.

God forbid a woman try to keep her man happy 🤷‍♀️

Let's assume you go to the staff toilet with vibrator.

Is it appropriate?

I mean, if we are "assuming" based on nothing, can you discuss how you masturbate in the office, because the cleaner's cousin of the baker down the road happened to have told us?

In my mind they started as colleagues, then started shagging at lunch time before finally getting married. They need to meet every lunchtime as one is worried the other will find someone else to have the lunch time shag with.

😭😭😭

I'd no one sees or hears anything then how do you know apart from 2nd hand gossip from a relative, has anyone ever knocked on the door to find out.

good sex makes women happy too! It's a man's job!

Not sure how good it is when you often do it in a place where you must keep quiet, once in a while I get, but every lunchtime?

Can anyone see or hear?

If his private office has glass walls or the whole office can hear them then yes 100% I agree with you totally inappropriate.

If no one can see or hear them then so what, as another poster said, his company, his office, his wife, crack on.

You jelly OP 😏

sure but it’s also MY workplace. It’s just grim imo.

Yeah, I'm with you, OP. It's very inappropriate. What if someone walked in on them?

Amen to that. Why has this ridiculous twee-ism taken hold on here?

I’ve had sex with my husband in his (very private) office and it’s bloody good fun 🤷🏼‍♀️ why is the wife’s cousin telling you this anyway?!

YABU to believe unsubstantiated gossip.
If you would have seen/heard it yourself of course it would be wildly inappropriate.

Is it a medical place of work or one with children around?
Even then I'm sure couples have done it in their surgeries and classrooms and specially if they own it. Sometimes a couple lock the office to nap or let their guard down not because they are having sex.
Do you or the cousin fancy the boss?

Are you employed by Matt Hancock OP?

Have they invited you to join them? No ? Then mind your own business. Perhaps they're writing redundancy notices behing their closed doors.

Unless you can see or hear them at it, it doesn’t matter.

Wont be the first or last people to have sex at work.

Are they doing the desk sweep of passion?

He’s the boss so do you want to leave the company because he isn’t going to?

I can’t judge, I have indeed had shenanigans myself in the office (when such things were just greeted with a knowing smile and not a P45).

I don't think people are saying it's not 'inappropriate'. I think people are just saying that they wouldn't care and pointing out that it doesn't actually affect you or your working day in any way whatsoever, inappropriate or not. Technically it's probably inappropriate, but it's also not actually causing anyone any problems and your reaction seems really OTT to me.

Some people would think it was 'inappropriate' and 'unprofessional' for you to be posting on Mumsnet during your working day, but I think most of us would say 'Well, I suppose technically people probably shouldn't post online on company time, but meh, who cares? As long as they get their job done, I'd just ignore it.' I just think the same applies to your boss dipping his wick at lunchtime.

But why would we assume its true?

Loads of people do inappropriate things at work. This seems pretty harmless.

Years ago I worked in a factory, there were 3 rumours that went round all the time: the CEO was shagging his PA every lunch time, the factory manager had a child with a woman on the factory floor and she was allowed to start later in the day so she could take the child to school, the receptionist was having an affair with a guy that run the maintenance team. I don't know about the last rumour, but the first two were completely untrue as I found out for sure later after I'd left. I was only pleased I hadn't furthered the rumours! So maybe your boss does shag his wife in his office - or maybe they just have lunch together and a chat!