Replying to someone who has blown hot and cold

[clodhopperz]

Totally fed up with a class mum who for the past few years has spoken to me on her terms, ignored me when she doesn’t want to speak. After 3 years of this I had enough. I can’t be bothered to engage now. She sends the odd spurious message when she wants to find out information. I mostly want to ignore her as she’s treated me like complete crap over the years but feel then bad when I don’t respond. Is it rude to just ignore her and not provide her with what she asks? I feel so less anxious when she doesn’t pop up in my messages but I can’t really block her as that will create a fall out at the school gate.

I blank people like this and don’t feel bad about it. They’ve had enough chances.

It's hard to say. A lot of the mums on the school run where I am are friendly and probably only really message to find out bits of info. Like not really friends but will chat when they see eachother but not go out of their way to spend time with them.

I probably blow hot and cold because there are some days after work I literally want to grab DC and go home without making small talk.

What exactly is the issue ? Did you want to strike up a friendship and it wasn't really reciprocated?

You dont owe anyone anything. Not time, information or attention.

Grey rock this person and think nothing more of it.

Answer in your own time, give nothing away, polite civil nothing that can be manipulated or turned against you, no information

"Nice to hear from you, have a great day "no emoticons or kisses
no apologies for not answering
no hooks to carry on the convo
dont answering immediately - give it 4 or 5 hours to respond.

I think it fine to just ignore requests dor help or info If thats the only reason she texts. Just leave her on unread for a day. She will quickly realise you are not available to help.