9 year old drinking from a bottle

[HaychEss]

MIL still gives her 9 year old milk from a baby bottle, isn’t this classed as neglect? I wanna say something because I’ve heard of the harms and it’s just wrong but also is it my place?

It's weird, but by itself it's not neglect. Is there anything is else going on?

Jusy weird. I mean I take it they are on solids too!

I'd mention it, but dont lecture.

No it's not neglect.

It's also not 'just wrong'.

A 9 year old???

Buy him a fun age appropriate drinks bottle for Christmas with his favourite character on something he will want all his drinks in

It very much is, according to our dentist. Sucking from a bottle rather than drinking from a cup means that the liquid coats the teeth far more, so it is increasing the risk of tooth decay. Water is fine, but not anything else.

Have you never said anything about it? Has your husband? Weird on all sides

Water from a baby bottle at 9 years old is also not fine, it’s not just about teeth

Does this mean your husband has a 9 year old sister?

Presumably, because it's not her job to allow or disallow anything, as it's not her child.

I would say it’s very odd and very bad for the teeth too. Why would you even do that? Is there any SEN going on cos it sounds like a sensory need.

I’d misread whose child it was, now edited.

Not my problem.

Bored OP, couldn’t sleep? Nothing much on?

Your mil has a 9 year old?

Is the 9 year old verbal? What does s/he say about it? Is is occasional or usual? How often does this 9 year old drink milk?

It's not great and you can gently discuss it

If you read the OP she said she knows it's harmful (to teeth) presumably but also 'just wrong'.

She's making a judgement there.

Does the child have SEN needs? I just couldn't imagine a 9 year old without SEN standing for that. For example my profoundly autistic DD would go for it if it was on offer but my NT SD would flat out refuse.

I know a child of around this age who still has a bottle of milk and cuddles before bed. He was adopted and had some very traumatic early childhood experiences so I assume it helps him cope with that.

Aww thats really sad 😔 one of mine was a really unwell child spent years in and out of hospital lots of surgeries. She had a dummy a lot longer then she should of but it was a real comfort for her

If nothing else, I imagine if other children became aware of this, they would make his life a misery.

I'm sorry to hear that and I think that sort of comfort can be really important. I hope she's doing well now with her health.

This little boy is doing brilliantly now all things considered but he definitely needs/ does lots of things that you'd normally associate with a much younger child. Poor wee thing didn't get enough comfort and cuddles as an infant, it's heartbreaking.

At least it’s not……..bitty

I've seen this before, that bottles are actively bad past a certain age. Even assuming otherwise normal diet. Why is a bottle bad but a fruit shoot okay with the coating the teeth thing? And someone said even water is bad - should I not be drinking from a sports cap? (Water)

Well I have a 7 year old and am MIL to my 30 year old son-in-law. It’s quite possible 🤷🏻‍♀️