I’m not sure how much of this is pre teen hormones and circumstantial of her current situation. 11 year old is depressed due to bullying at school, however this seems to have for now been resolved. She’s always had a bit of an issue with my husband as she blames him for us moving from her hometown and friends when she was 5. She called me today at work as she had had a big falling out with him after he had asked her to clean her room. She often reacts angrily to this now, but I’ve just out this down to teenage hormones. And while I am understanding of this, we are keeping the boundary that she must keep her room clean which is something she is outright refusing to do. I don’t mind a bit of a mess, but we’re talking piles of dirty washing hidden in the wardrobe, contact lenses take out and just flicked onto the carpet, rotten food that she’s snuck up there and hidden under her bed. She takes offense when I ask her to do things but when my husband asks her it’s world war 3. She asked me tonight to divorce him, she hates him, she also hates her younger brother and she wants it to be just me and her. I feel so stuck in the middle and don’t know what to do. My husband has been making much more of an effort with her over the past few weeks to try and connect more and improve things but she is adamant she wants to leave. Has anyone been through something like this?