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Manager back from mat leave and suddenly micromanaging me — how do I handle this

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Redcliffe1 · 10/12/2025 20:01

I’m after some perspective because I’m feeling quite undermined at work and I’m not sure how to deal with it.

I’m in a senior role managing a very large contract (over £4m a year). When I started, my manager was on maternity leave so I basically had no manager for months. I had to pick everything up on my own, including dealing with two quite difficult people on the supplier side. It wasn’t easy but I managed it.

When my manager came back from mat leave, things were fine at first. She’s nice enough and when she formally reviewed me for my probation (which had been extended purely because she wasn’t around to assess me), she rated me highly across the board. So performance-wise, everything was positive.

But recently she’s started doing things that make me feel really micromanaged, such as:

rewriting my emails,

getting involved in issues I’m perfectly capable of handling,

and even letting the supplier draft communications which she then asks me to send out under my name.

For context, I’m paid around £70k — this is not a junior role — and I’ve managed big contracts before. So it feels quite embarrassing and undermining, especially when the supplier sees her stepping in over the top of me.

I don’t know if this is her trying to re-establish control after being away, or if she just doesn’t realise how it’s coming across. But it’s starting to knock my confidence and make me dread interactions that I used to handle fine.

Has anyone dealt with something like this?
How do I raise it without sounding defensive or stroppy?
And how do I set some boundaries without damaging the working relationship?

Its a great organisation they are paying for me to do some qualifications for the next year . There are not many jobs in my field and hardly any with the great pay, holiday and pension that comes with this role so really want it to work.

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RedBulb · 10/12/2025 20:55

There could be a lot at play here, her adjusting to getting back in the workplace and feeling she has to reassert control over things, potentially your predecessor may have needed closer management and she has just picked up where she left off. There may also be differences in how you both operate. Do you have a 1:1 where you can raise ways of working and expectations in role? You can set out your stall and hopefully that could be a productive discussion. If you wanted to take that route, make sure to add it to the agenda for your call or brief her at a high level beforehand so she knows you will be raising it.

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