Late RSVP kids party

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So my child is having a birthday party in a village hall and the entertainment includes 25 painted faces (face painter/glitter tattoo/bouncy castle).
The majority of kids invited were from school and i'd told my child that if some children couldn't come we would be able to invite some of their friends from outside of school.
6 parents didn't bother to RSVP, which meant I asked 5 of their other friends if they would like to come - all of which have said yes.
2 parents came back to me 2 days after the rsvp deadline and it meant it would take me up to 25 in total (including the newly invited 5) so I said yes.
However, one parent has came back to me today a week late and has asked if their child can come, plus their siblings that they do not have childcare for.
Am I being unreasonable in apologising but saying no unfortunately we are now at our max capacity?

Nope. They missed the rsvp by a week, you don't have the capacity and they are a cheeky fucker to boot!! Just say no!

This! Late rsvp plus multiple other dc? Narp!

I hope you've already said no. They didn't respond until a week after the deadline and they want to bring a sibling you've not had time to cater for. That's what RSVPs are for, so it's a very easy no.

Say you’ve already filled the place if your one child and you’ve confirmed numbers with the party vendors. CF to ask for an additional kid to go!

They only want their child plus the others to come to your party because of the childcare issue, don't they? Otherwise they wouldn't bother and wouldn't have bothered replying to let you know. So inconsiderate and rude. I'd definitely say that the party numbers were booked and complete now, shame they waited to mention it...

(The cheek of them wanting to bring other dc too, some people have a brass neck!)

it is a little bit harsh but it is fine to say no.

“I hope your dc isn’t disappointed, I’d love to have been able to include you but unfortunately when the rsvp date passed I asked some friends outside school instead. That’s such a shame as we’d have loved to see Billy at the party! Perhaps we could meet up for a play date at my house one weekend during Christmas instead, if you’d like that?”

It’s not harsh at all to say ‘no’!

In fairness - a party in a hall often has flexibility and many parents will bring siblings in my area, but won’t let them sit down to eat at the party table.

I’d go with the first half of this, but only offer a play date if you actually want one! No need to do it out of (unnecessary) guilt.

Agree, first half of BellaBal’s reply is good, but the rest is too people pleasing. I’m perennially late at responding to things, but I understand that’s my fault if me or my kids miss out

Why would it be harsh?

Just say its too late snd youre full up.

What a cheek!

I had this in August and it was the night before. I said yes and paid a small additional amount to the organiser to increase the number and they paid for the sibling. I was happy to do this. They brought a very nice gift for my son.

At least she told you she was planning to bring the siblings. A couple of years ago I had an rsvp the night before, said yes as it was fine, and on the day she brought a wild toddler and a grumpy teen I didn’t know about.

No need for all the flim flam suggested about the child being disappointed, that’s on the disorganised mum. Just say no, sorry, it’s too late and now there’s no space. Or ditch the sorry. Because you’ve done nothing wrong!

If it really is too many now, then no and it’s not your fault. She should be more organised with this stuff (I say this as someone who needs to be more organised with this stuff)

Do let us know what you replied with. Don't disappoint us.