She lives a considerable distance away, several hours drive. We are hosting a large family Christmas this year and of course she was invited along with her 2 adult daughters. I said to DH that I would prefer her not to stay. I am fond of her but find her often overbearing and she often takes over food and arrangements. I thought she would stay with her sister who is also coming to us for Christmas Day.
Now we have heard that she can't stay with the other sister (long story,) and thinks that a hotel is too expensive so won't come. She is quite well off. Her daughters are also not coming but are with other people.
So she is going to be without family on Christmas Day. Meanwhile DH and I are massively stressed over a bad business decision we have recently made which may have awful repercussions. We are tired, snappy and I feel even less like having a bossy person to stay. But I do feel bad that we are not just welcoming her to stay. DH is quite upset about it but can see that it is the last thing we need.