Gender-neutral toilets - found

[Chiaseedling]

I went to a West End theatre last week and visited the ‘ladies’ before the show, except it wasn’t the ladies, it was the ‘whoever’!

Now I don’t have a big issue with a gender-neutral toilet if the cubicles have sinks in them as well as the loo, as to me it’s no different from going to a toilet in a small cafe when there’s just one facility.
However, this one just had the regular cubicles and then had the sinks in the general area.

People were really confused seeing the opposite sex coming out of the loo. Dh waited outside for me before we got our seats and he had to tell people it was G/N. It was obviously a ladies which they just labelled G/N. No ‘gents’ around.

.DH couldn’t see the issue, I tried to explain that some women (vulnerable ones) would not feel comfortable with a man in their toileting space but he didn’t really get it - yes, because you’re a man!
Adult DS understood more when I explained.

I’m not a raging feminist but this made me feel really uncomfortable.

I went to toilets like that in a church. A normal ‘Ladies” with cubicles and sinks, but used by both men and women. I hated it. I felt so vulnerable sat with my trousers around my ankles. It’s the fettered feet that leave you slow to react in an emergency that makes you feel so vulnerable.

Please name the venue to ensure I don't go there. Thanks

I found one too and now I wish I’d made a note of the venue. It was some council building I think.

Was the a men’s toilet as well as the gender neutral one, or was this the only toilet?

Was it the Royal Court? Same set up there.

I have seen a few gender neutral toilets with shared sink area, all with cubical doors/walls that reach the ground. I can live with it if the doors/walls reach the ground because I feel less vulnerable at the sinks, though I can imagine feeling very vulnerable at the sinks if I had to wash any blood from my hands there.

If the toilets were gender neutral and the cubical doors/walls didn’t reach the ground then I would find a different toilet and complain to the venue. Not always as simple as that though, is it?

It's not even just about the privacy/dignity stuff - the fact that the women, who already have to queue longer, then get more people in the queue, is so unfair.