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Neighbour keeps sending parcels to my house?

23 replies

Jennajenjen · 09/12/2025 01:17

First time I thought it was just a mistake. Left note on two building doors, lady called Kate j, please come to number 1 to collect parcel

she apologised.

second time in a about 5 days to a week. I again left note on building door.

she handed son 10 pound note, said this is for the trouble you went through. He was confused but she goes TAKE IT. Take it! I want you to have it. I’m in hurry cmon! Put it in his hand and walked off

now 2-3 weeks later we get her parcel again?

and also neighbours in huge building saw that note and are now expecting me to keep their parcels safe. asking me to take their parcel, or ordering to my flat or knocking on my door asking if I have their parcel

dh says there’s something dodgy going on?

OP posts:
Original poster
Jennajenjen · 09/12/2025 01:23

Oh and also get building neighbours now saying well you kept it safe for her, went through all that trouble, why not for us???

OP posts:
nomas · 09/12/2025 01:27

Are you accepting the parcels or are they being left outside your home?

Branleuse · 09/12/2025 01:30

Stop taking them. Put up a notice saying that you don't mind occasionally as is normal and neighbourly, but you aren't a sorting office and it's disturbing you a lot now and it's taking the piss

XWKD · 09/12/2025 01:31

Jennajenjen · 09/12/2025 01:23

Oh and also get building neighbours now saying well you kept it safe for her, went through all that trouble, why not for us???

They need to be told to fuck off for starters.

WallaceinAnderland · 09/12/2025 01:33

Jennajenjen · 09/12/2025 01:23

Oh and also get building neighbours now saying well you kept it safe for her, went through all that trouble, why not for us???

Perfect excuse. I can't do it for everyone so it wouldn't be fair to do it for just one person. No more accepting parcels.

chattyness · 09/12/2025 01:52

Put a big note on your door stating that you will not be taking parcels in for neighbours . If they don't like it hard luck!

mondaytosunday · 09/12/2025 02:30

Just refuse to accept them. My visiting son accepted a large box for a neighbour up the street and it took a week fur them to collect. Then twice more large boxes were directed to my house as an alternative - I refused them. Turns out the people didn’t even live at the house (her mother did who had passed away).
Just be firm and tell anyone that it’s just not convenient. You do not need to expand on that.

Friendlygingercat · 09/12/2025 02:40

Agree with @WallaceinAnderland that you cannot do it for everyone so it would be unfair to do it for just one person. Start as you mean to go on and do not accept parcels for neighbours. If you are going to be out have yours sent to the depot or a pick up point and collect them. Get a ring doorbell and tell couriers you are not at home and answering on the app.

PollyBell · 09/12/2025 02:46

Friendlygingercat · 09/12/2025 02:40

Agree with @WallaceinAnderland that you cannot do it for everyone so it would be unfair to do it for just one person. Start as you mean to go on and do not accept parcels for neighbours. If you are going to be out have yours sent to the depot or a pick up point and collect them. Get a ring doorbell and tell couriers you are not at home and answering on the app.

Why is the op not allowed to take a parcel in for one person, it is not one else's busines what the op does

The op has every right to take as many or as little parcels as they like

Neighbours are adults they can sort their own parcels out

BlondeBonBon · 09/12/2025 02:48

Stop answering the door? Stop taking parcel's? Direct the postie to the correct door. Ignore all parcels left near your door.

if asked about parcels by neighbours, just say you were asleep or out or the tv was too loud and you don’t know anything about parcels, didn’t hear the door.

BlondeBonBon · 09/12/2025 02:49

Or put a note on your door saying you’re accepting deliveries to your family name at your address only

ToeJob · 09/12/2025 03:17

A swift kick in the bracket should sort it.

CinnamonBuns67 · 09/12/2025 09:13

Stop taking them. If people put your address as delivery address, check the name before accepting ot and then tell the person delivering it that that person does not live there and to return to sender. People will soon get the message.

Bamfram · 09/12/2025 09:26

Put a sign up saying you aren't taking deliveries for anyone.
In real life this isn't an issue as people simply wouldn't tolerate it.

OffTheHookNow · 09/12/2025 10:31

Whem the delivery guy arrives say that you don’t take parcels for neighbours…. Problem solved.

Nourishinghandcream · 09/12/2025 10:45

@Bamfram
In real life this isn't an issue as people simply wouldn't tolerate it.

Spot on.👍

We take in the occasional parcel for neighbours (and are happy to do so) but if it was becoming an issue in any way we would just stop doing it, no question.

Original poster
Jennajenjen · 09/12/2025 12:47

I did leave note saying accepting number 1 only

now I am getting a bunch of post with my address and door number but their name

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TreeDudette · 09/12/2025 12:55

Just lose it a few times. They'll soon stop!

MakeItToTheMoon · 09/12/2025 13:05

Tell them you’ll charge for the service. So cheeky!

GrandHighVitch · 09/12/2025 13:11

Tell everyone that you are not accepting anybody’s post at all anymore. Refuse any parcels that aren’t named to you. And make it clear that any post that comes to your house through your letter box will be marked with “not at this address” and put into a postbox to be returned to sender. Don’t put up with this nonsense anymore. You’re not the local post office fgs.

TheatricalLife · 09/12/2025 13:25

If you are opening the door to accept, turn it away immediately. If the post is being left outside your door, leave it on your doorstep (preferably in the rain/mud) and don't bother to take it over to anyone and don't answer the door if they knock to collect. If it's postage sized, cross out the address and stick in the postbox with not at this address. I'd actually be tempted to start bunging stuff in the bin if it carries on.

AgnesX · 09/12/2025 13:30

Stop answering the door to delivery men if they're not for you. Or if you get caught by a courier just say no to accepting deliveries 🤷

Friendlygingercat · 09/12/2025 13:57

Every week there is one of these threads on MN and coming up to christmas it can be a real pain. No one wants multiple parcels which are not for them. You then have the problem of either keeping it safely until the supposed recitient comes to collect it, or taking it to them. A fully functioning adult sorts out their own postage. If they work they arrange to send it to a pick up point from which they can retrieve it. Sending your parcels to a neighbours address without permission or an agreed arrangement is asshole behaviour.

One year I had 3 misdelvered parcels left outside my door. The postie took one but not the others because they were Evri and not his responsibility. They were for the other side of the estate and I have mobility issues. So they sat there until a relative arrived and agreed to drop them off on his way home. One would not answer the door although it was clear there was someone home. Parcel was left on the doorstep. The other recipient was ungrateful and abusive - even when informed that the parcel had been mistakenly delivered to his disabled aunt. "Why didnt you bring it earlier?" Relative told her if it happened again he would advise me to bin any mis-delvered parcels.

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