My partner has 2 grown up sons and I treat them like my own, the oldest has a gf and they have just had a baby. We are very close and the oldest son and his gf lived with us for a time. This didn’t end well as the gf is very difficult to live with, although we all get on now and see them a lot now they have had the baby. They come and stay with us and we stay with them on a regular basis. The gf is constantly hinting that they have no money, and is always asking to borrow things of mine, for example iPhone chargers, lashes, my hair dryer, etc etc, I sometimes don’t always get these things back, she ‘forgets’ and takes them home. So last time she asked to borrow something I said no. My dp then went behind my back and offered to lend it to her anyway, and she was like ‘no thanks cos I was made to feel guilty for asking’. I was in earshot and she knew it. I’m just sick of being taken for a mug and wondered AIBU? I am annoyed at both of them now and made to look like the bad guy when she is always playing the victim and so hard done by! They do nothing but take take take.