Alone (ish) at Christmas

[omgno45]

Recently left abusive relationship.
my children go to their dads Xmas day afternoon
my family isn’t close (mum, dad, brother etc) we don’t see eye to eye so won’t be seeing each other.

so I’m alone from Xmas afternoon and Boxing Day.
what shall I do with myself any ideas ?
I won’t be having a Xmas dinner as kids will be gone. No point making one just for me. Xx
feeling sad. No Xmas spirit just sadness & dread

My first Xmas after I escaped was with my parents for Xmas day, but after that I think we started having legal agreements and I definitely had a day just the same as you the following year. I was still going through hell and it was hard.

If I remember correctly, I just bought nice bits and bobs. I had a fancy starter and a glass of fizz and then watched Downton with some cheese and crackers later. Skipped the main course.

I think I was just exhausted and actually it was ok. I had some phone calls and lots of telly.

I did have my beloved dog back then though so would have had a nice walk with him which would have made it easier.

You don't have to do or be anything. If you feel sad that's understandable. Just be kind to yourself. If that involves a soak in the bath and going back to bed with a box of chocs and watching telly, you're allowed. Just enjoy Xmas morning and rest and recover when you are on your own.

A long hot soak, cosy pj’s and fluffy socks, all your favourite Christmas foods on a table next to you along with your favourite tipple. Turn the lights out, except the tree lights, and put on the TV. Indulge, reminding yourself that this time last year you were in an abusive relationship but now you’re free.

Boxing Day. Get wrapped up warm go for a lovely winter’s day walk and then repeat Christmas Day afternoon all over again.

Be sure to tell your children you’ve had a wonderful time as they will have spent the time away worrying about you being on your own. Next year they can worry a little less. I know this, as I was once one of those children.

I know it probably feels a little daunting but use it as an opportunity to look after yourself. After what you've been through, you deserve to have some peaceful time not having to think of anyone but yourself. Treat yourself to new comfy pj's and fluffy socks, indulgent bath products and hair and face treatments. Then your favourite foods and drink and watch your favourite TV and films. Have an early night, listen to a podcast or audiobook and drift off. Then Boxing Day, have a long walk and then put your feet up and eat chocolates and watch something funny. When your kids come back, you will be rested and refreshed and can do something fun with them ☺️ look after yourself lovely 💐

Great suggestions above. You will be up early on Christmas morning and it will be full on with the kids. When they've gone, you could put loud music on and have a good tidy up. Then treat yourself to your favourite meal or snacks. I would have fancy cheese, crackers and figs with parma ham. Then you could go out for a walk or watch a box set and have an early night with an audiobook.
On boxing day could you go for a walk with a friend?
Well done for leaving an abusive partner. Enjoy the peace!