Should I?

[Batsnip]

So a guy who I have always fancied has asked me on a date (been single 2 years after a 10 year marriage) however he is a bit rough and ready and just not what I have been used to for the past 10 years.

he is gorgeous though and I do really fancy him but I have 2 children and obviously I have to think about them first (not that he is terrible or anything just a bit common). Do I go on the date? He works etc and has his own house, maybe I am overthinking it.

Definitely go on the date! Who knows where it might lead or what you might discover!

You're overthinking it.

And a bit of a snob.

I think he might deserve better.

‘Rough and ready’? Is that another way of saying ‘smoking hot’?

Yes!! Go on the date!!

Thanks, my heart is telling me to do it but obviously If I was to introduce the kids I would like them to be a good role model, obviously that is so far away in front but I really really cannot stop looking at pictures of him! Ok I’ll go.

I think it would be a waste of your time and his. If you think he's 'common' and that bothers you, it's unlikely to just vanish. I've never dated someone who's had a thing that niggled at me from the outset and then just been able to forget about that thing, it's always lingered and bothered me, and eventually gotten in the way of things progressing.

Not that he was just a bit of a bad boy back in the day but I think that is well and truly behind him. Maybe it’s a good thing actually.

You are worried to date him because he is working class? That sounds quite snobby you'd even think this.

If course go out with him. You're attracted to him. You could have lots in common. You don't need to rush into thinking about him as your long term partner. Just see how it goes.

You're getting ahead of yourself it's just one date , go have fun, it'll be a long time before any introduction to the children

What does “rough and ready” mean in your world?

how did you meet him?

It’s a date, you don’t have to decide whether you’ll be together forever based on being asked on a date. You’ll either discover you have plenty in common despite your initial prejudice, or that you don’t have much in common at all and there just won’t be any more dates. Just think of it as an evening out in a nice pub making conversation with somebody a bit different.

Go, it’s only a date not a marriage proposal. You wouldn’t be introducing him to your kids for a long time anyway.

I am sure he would be delighted to know that he is your bit of rough🙄
Hopefully he will be going through the same thought process and will conclude that you are too stuck up.

I wonder what the equivalent expression would be and how it would be received on mumsnet if man talking about woman

Lol @ 'common'.

Mrs Bucket goes dating!

"Bad boy back in the day"

How do you mean bad boy? Lots of affairs? Criminality? Did he once forget to stand when a lady entered the room?

Please go! And let us know how it went with Mr Hot!

just a bit common

Frankly, I think he could probably do better than you, if that's how you think about people.

You’re overthinking this. Just go for a drink and see how it goes. No need to tell kids anything for a long time. Just have fun!

It’s just a date, he might realise what a massive snob you are before it goes any further.