My daughter has more for Christmas than my son..

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I had a DS who is 8 and a DD who is 4.
DS has just asked for Lego and not given any other suggestions, the Lego he wants are £30-£80 a pop. DD wants a go kart thing which she’s got but other than that’s it’s cheap Barbie’s, dolls, second hand toys etc.
so when wrapping it DOES look like DD has more. I feel so guilty but DS does have every LEGO going between our house and DGP’s and his birthday is a week after Christmas.
Should I buy him more so it looks more even?

My 9 year old has more presents than the 7 year old because the youngest has a big Lego set (actually spent slightly more on youngest). I have chatted to both of them about it explaining it and think they will be fine. Surely 8 year old will understand if you explain in advance.

Not the point of the thread, but how did you get a lego version of your son? Could you provide a link please?

To this day I scrupulously spend the same on each DC and mine are 29 and 27.
But they were told from quite an early age that the size of the parcels doesn't always waste with the cost. This becomes more noticeable as they get older than toddlers. Toddler gifts are often bigger but cheaper and as they get older the gifts get smaller and dearer.

When you have more than one child it's important that they all feel equally important, and, it's difficult at Christmas when everybody's supposed to be getting presents equally, unlike a gift for a achievement, graduation, or they're very own birthday.

The solution is not to purchase more for your son, but maybe to give less to your daughter lol. Depends when her birthday is. Maybe some of that stuff you can hold back and give to her then. Or, I'm not going to say wrap all the Legos individually so we has more stuff to open but, if you said you've got a whole bunch of little stuff for your daughter, and bigger stuff for your son so it looks like she's got more, something like that might be a solution. Find a way to make what his is looks like more. Or, some kids don't care about more they care about bigger. His gifts are bigger? He has the biggest box under the tree cuz it's the giant set of Lego? But she has a whole bunch of teeny little things?

I don’t get the we must spend the same on each kid. I’ve had friends buy her oldest a game console & then bought a stack load of things their daughter didn’t want or need. She only wanted things like Hama beads. I went round & she was in a flap at how ridiculous the piles looked when she got the stuff out to wrap. I thought why not put the rest in premium bonds & have the winnings paid into her bank account. It was mental. We laughed about it & her son is at an age where he would have understood the value in the gifts. Fast forward to the school fete nearly a year later & she donated so many unused toys.

I’ve never spent the same. They get what they ask for as a main gift. When writing the list of what they want I always said that number them in preference. I always tried to get them the first 3 within reason. I spent more on my daughter some years & more on my son others. I have an overall Christmas budget for all gifts & I’m happy with that because I have the flexibility then to buy people what I think they’ll like

This is a good idea.

Don't buy for the sake of buying.

Does he need anything like clothes and shoes that you were going to buy anyway? You could wrap them up too.

winnings paid into her bank account.

This is up there with buying clothes for a child as a present. Not saying don't invest from an early age, but not instead of Christmas presents.

I agree with very small children they don't know any different. But once they are old enough I think equal treatment matters. If necessary scale down the bigger pile.