I’m recently married and have been with my DH for the best part of a decade. Prior to meeting him I had a uni friend who I went on a holiday with and we had a fling. Given we’d been friends for years I also knew his family a bit. When I met DH he kept saying things like he felt we’d always have a special connection and in the end he kept trying to come onto me when we would catch up so I blocked him and moved on. We haven’t been in anything resembling regular contact for about 7 years and I’ve not heard from him at all in nearly 5 years after he messaged to say a relative of his was dying and I politely sent my condolences but nothing more.
Out of the blue, he has messaged to tell me he is now living in the USA with his wife and adopted children, but will be in London early next year, wants to see if there is any possibility of a platonic friendship, and would like to meet my husband (and has congratulated me on my marriage). It’s a very elaborate message and has made me extremely uncomfortable. I just don’t understand why he would ever think I would say yes to this, or what purpose it would serve? We don’t keep in touch at all, and I am happy with my life. All I can think is it’s some egotistical thing? But why would he want his wife to meet me?