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Does anyone have weekends like this anymore?

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Ranoutofideasfortheelves · 07/12/2025 22:04

Friday night, got in, made chilli and nachos, fire on, throws on, pjs on, dh, me, dd (7) and ddog on the sofa watching films
Saturday, Dd did colouring in the morning, had pancakes, then her friend came to play, then she went to theirs for a few hours. I watched xmas films and sewed a top, Dh messed about on his computer.
I made lasagna and Dd came home, we had a dance to Christmas music then watched Home alone and bed.
Today we took ddog out to the woods, dd did clay, we made chocolate Christmas tree biscuits and played with her elves, played in the garden on the trampoline with the elves, had a roast, bath, fire, stories & bed.

Just been looking at Instagram etc and so many posts of visits to cities, girls nights out, santa spectacular shows, Lapland, London visits etc and just feeling a bit 😬
We will do a few Christmas outings for sure, but don’t seem half as busy (or wealthy)as lots of people. I remember lots of weekends as a kid being slow, but I was perfectly happy. We definitely do a lot more with Dd than I did as a kid, but do most of you do these kind of outings most weekends? Is Dd missing out?

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EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 07/12/2025 22:29

I spend all my weekends racing around like a lunatic ferrying kids to sporting events and doing chores. Your weekend is heavenly.

Conniebygaslight · 07/12/2025 22:30

OP I work in a 6th form college and hear so many stories from really sad & disconnected young people. Please keep doing what you’re doing. Ditch Instagram and carry on

TheNinny · 07/12/2025 22:30

meant to say we also watched an xmas movie and had a friend over before the xmas party. So I don’t think what you described is rare at all.

gogomomo2 · 07/12/2025 22:31

Sounds normal to me, I think half of the posts on Instagram are exaggerated/only post the “exciting” stuff.

yesterday I got up late, went to look at something we need (didn’t have what we wanted) went to Lidl, made chilli, then toddled off to local pub for a band, this is as exciting as it gets and I love it

Fuckitydoodah · 07/12/2025 22:31

Your weekend sounds a lot like ours, and most of our weekends this time of year. I kind of go into hibernation mode. People only really post the exciting stuff on insta. It's easy to get sucked in and feel like you should be out and about doing stuff.

My highlights this weekend have been cooking enchiladas with DC1, putting up the tree, and giving upstairs a hoover and a good tidy. I wouldn't have wanted to have been anywhere else.

TidyCyan · 07/12/2025 22:31

We went to the cinema on Friday night to see Zootropolis 2 (not expensive as DH and I have passes so only cost us a child's ticket). Saturday morning DS had a football match and we went to a café for lunch. Saturday afternoon DS went to his nana's for a bit while DH and I watched a film and built some Lego. Today DS had a rugby match and we went to the supermarket.

You're not missing anything by not going to Winter Wonderland on a weekend. It's like trying to get into Wembley for a football match. Queues, security checks, more queues and being whisked past stalls by the constantly-moving crowd.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 07/12/2025 22:32

Your weekend sounds bloody lovely! I love weekends like that. I suppose people photograph when they’re out more and post on social media whereas the normal weekends are not deemed insta worthy. Love a planned weekend doing something different. However …. A “pottering” weekend is my fave. Content in my house with my family 💕 your DD is certainly not missing out xx

HardworkSendHelp · 07/12/2025 22:32

I would love your weekend. All I seem
to do is housework, groceries, prep for the week ahead and catch up on work.🙈

Ddakji · 07/12/2025 22:32

Actually, @Ranoutofideasfortheelves, is this more about the family or you? Because while I’m out and about with DD and DH perhaps more than you are, I don’t go out myself hardly at all and very rarely at night. No girls’ nights out for me.

Your DD is very little still. Enjoy these calm weekends while you have them. Once you’ve got masses of homework and teen dramas and worries in the mix it’s a whole other kettle of fish.

ZeldaFighter · 07/12/2025 22:33

YABU because thst is the worst humble brag about what a wonderful family you all are I have ever seen.

Back here in reality, I have a dying swan of a DH so I went shopping in the rain, cooked a roast chicken dinner no one ate and then mopped up p*ss in the downstairs bathroom.

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Ranoutofideasfortheelves · 07/12/2025 22:33

Nopenousername · 07/12/2025 22:29

You sure like minced beef

😂 Yeah, had a kilo of mince and don’t eat meat really during the week

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FestiveFruitloop · 07/12/2025 22:34

Your weekend sounds idyllic, OP! Don't believe everything you see on the socials, the grass isn't always greener.

MooDengOfThailand · 07/12/2025 22:35

No.
I don't think most people are out at parties, fancy dinners in restaurants and new sparkly outfits for every occasion.
As we circle back to feudalism - few people can afford it.
Only those at the top of the feudal hierarchy can.

curious79 · 07/12/2025 22:36

Sounds brilliant. It felt like your last couple of sentences, saying your weekend was boring or similar, was a real plot twist!!!

snoopythebeagle · 07/12/2025 22:36

Nobody posts their regular weekends on socials though, so you’re never going to get an accurate picture.

PermanentTemporary · 07/12/2025 22:36

Those events are staggeringly expensive. I did get a Facebook memory that ds and I went to the ice skating at Somerset House with my sister, but that was 6 years ago. Who can afford that stuff?

I think you’d enjoy the Good Morning Mumsnet threads on here if you haven’t seen them. People do have nice plans on there but mostly it’s just quiet family or solo activities.

GreenMarigold · 07/12/2025 22:36

Most of our weekends are similar to yours. Yesterday my daughter had a martial arts grading session and then I had my work Christmas party.

Today my other daughter and I helped out at a community event and then went swimming, and we all went to meet a neighbour’s new kitten.

Nothing glamorous but I enjoyed every minute.

ABeerInTheSunshineMakesMeHappy · 07/12/2025 22:37

I thought your post was telling us what a lovely weekend you had!

Sounds to me as if you did a lot, not boring at all.

skippy67 · 07/12/2025 22:38

Redpeach · 07/12/2025 22:08

Why are you looking at instagram if your weekend is so chill, just delete it

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Right! Just do your thing OP. Why are you bothered about what other people are doing?

Cyclingmummy1 · 07/12/2025 22:38

We did shopping, cleaning and ironing. I put up the Christmas tree and wrote some cards. DH watched the GP and we both had a couple of hours out doing our individual hobbies. I haven't time to go away!

Franjipanl8r · 07/12/2025 22:38

Sounds like a normal weekend. I’m not on instagram though so I have no idea what the alternate reality is that you think is “normal”.

Lotsnlotsoflove · 07/12/2025 22:40

Sounds normal to me. This Friday night I had a chilli at my mums’s with my DD(3), my sis and brother popped in for a bit. We did some dancing and yoga with my daughter then went home to bed.

Saturday DH was working so me and DD had a lazy late morning in bed, got up had some food. Went shopping, ate lunch in Morrisons cafe with MiL, bought and Xmas tree, went home and decorated it - DD joined in. Then I made spaghetti and meatballs and DH came home, ate it went to bed

Today after breakfast, I cleaned house and cooked a casserole while DD played with her dolls/stickers. DH slept late then and did some DIY. At some point we had cheese sandwiches and a bowl of soup. Peppa pig on telly the whole day, didn’t change out of PJs til 2pm. Ate the casserole and then went to bed.

I don’t know what people expect from the weekend tbh.

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Ranoutofideasfortheelves · 07/12/2025 22:40

ZeldaFighter · 07/12/2025 22:33

YABU because thst is the worst humble brag about what a wonderful family you all are I have ever seen.

Back here in reality, I have a dying swan of a DH so I went shopping in the rain, cooked a roast chicken dinner no one ate and then mopped up p*ss in the downstairs bathroom.

How do you know I don’t have any shit or issues?? I didn’t include them as the post wasn’t about going into those problems, it was about staying in at the weekend and missing out on Christmas days out for Dd

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Xmasbaby11 · 07/12/2025 22:40

It sounds completely normal and very relaxed. I am envious of the lack of chores! My DC are a bit older now but weekends were often like that when they were that age, just with a few more chores and probably a party to attend most weekends.

I think some families are more high energy than others. Some of my friends do an awful lot with their kids, but they still manage to keep on top of life, and they get their homework done etc easily. Whereas it seems to take us longer to get things done - kids want to get up late, need help with homework etc - so we are not a rushing round family. It is definitely better not to compare!

TeenLifeMum · 07/12/2025 22:40

Last weekend we were in a city at a theatre, this weekend has been really chilled with dog walks and trips to a garden centre Christmas exhibitions each day, getting the tree, decorating etc. Next weekend, different city (for a special event followed by celebration lunch). Do I post sitting having a film night? No. Do I post our trip to the theatre? Yes.