To have found this entitled and rude?!

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My husband and I took our kids to Disney on ice this evening, it was a packed arena with loads of kids with those noisy light up toys, generally very noisy and chaotic.
The show had just started, and the mum of the family in front of us turned around and shouted at my daughter to stop screaming. She said her son was autistic and couldn’t deal with screaming. She was aggressive and rude to the point she made me 11 year old daughter cry. My husband told her she had no right to speak to my daughter and if she had a problem she needed to speak to one of us as an adult. She then pulled a grumpy face and turned back around.
My daughter wasn’t screaming, she was cheering to the show, along with hundreds of other people in the audience. But after this interaction she was very quiet and it did ruin the first part of the night for her. The little boy had no ear defenders or anything to suggest he might struggle with noise (there were literally loads of kids with ear defenders on as it was obviously very noisy!) The mum seemed bang out of order to me and the whole attitude seemed so entitled.
I am all for accommodating people and their needs, but this seemed to rude and entitled to me. I was so, so angry for the way she spoke to my daughter. I really felt that if you’re choosing to bring your child to an event like this then it is on you as a parent to ensure that they can cope, having an SEND child doesn’t lead you can berate other people around you surely?!

It must of been pretty bad for them to turn around & tell your daughter off in all honesty.

Ridiculous comment. My son is autistic and sensitive to noise but also won't wear ear defenders because he doesn't like the feel of them or how it affects his hearing.
I would never shout at a child though. Well, anyone to be honest. It's to be expected in a place like that. She was rude and selfish

I would have torn into to her so hard! How dare she! I’m so sorry you guys experienced that

She was out of order - no one should shout at a child.

if the kid can’t cope with noise, maybe an arena of 10,000 people isn’t for them. Cheering is absolutely allowed and encouraged at Disney on Ice and every other kids show I’ve ever been to. Surely she must have known it’s not a quiet place?

I’m sorry it ruined your daughter’s experience.

It's possible you've become a bit immune to the sound of your own children and that, combined with pleasure at seeing her happy, made you unaware that she was actually quite a bit louder than you thought. There are nicer ways to ask you to be quiet, but the woman in front probably snapped. That said, I do think more organisations should consider putting on a special quieter show and enlarging their disabled areas.

Hmm I wonder what the woman in front of you’s thread would look like?

Are you quite sure your DD wasn't screaming? Having said that, the woman should have spoken to you not your DD if she had a problem - it wasn't OK to spoil a special outing for your DD, or to be so rude about it.

She was 11; so not young

What on earth did she expect?

I have every sympathy for people dealing with MD kids but if they are triggered by loud singing/shouting then Disney on Ice is an absurd place to take them.

Your own daughter could have been ND for all this bully knew. Funny how no one ever jumps to that conclusion when it’s a little girl’s behaviour they find objectionable, isn’t it?

My daughter is waiting for assessment for autism, we have been to disney on ice, I take ear defenders. If she finds environments like that to much I’ll take her home or we just wont go!

I would never expect another child to accommodate my child and expect them to reign in their joy. Everyone has paid and as much right to be there as anyone else

This woman was very rude and she could have asked politely. I do understand that she may have been stressed but theres no excusing shouting at a child!

Nah bollocks. Took my 5 year old nearly two decades ago to Disney on ice.
No screaming by anyone. No need to.
You dress them up as princesses, give them a glittery wand and tell them to pipe down. Job done.

They don't get through the day by themselves though, they spend time moaning/ bitching on MN.
Others wouldn't have enough common sense to open a christmas card without DRAMA.
Awaits the pile on for more daft comments on here... Bring it on, I'm not bothered either way as I'm allowed an opnion just like eveyone else.

Are you ok? Seriously…an arena FULL of excited children at Christmas, is NOT the place to take a noise sensitive child without the appropriate noise cancelling headphones! 🤦‍♀️

The woman was very rude, very entitled, and very ill-prepared as a parent of a child with a noise sensitivity!

I don’t think the contentious issue is the neurodiversity itself. I think the contentious issue is that this woman used her son’s neurodiversity as an excuse for her own poor behaviour. As an ND woman I’ll admit that makes me cross, too.