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To get irritated by these words / phrases

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Bouliegirl · 06/12/2025 22:23

there are a few words/phrasesthat irritate the life out of me that I keep seeing online. “Elevated”. “Intentional” “old money aesthetic”. Either in a magazine or on social media.

anyone else?

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:07

Beserkering · 07/12/2025 06:59

“Curated” for me.

I was recently asked to “curate a gift bag”. Seriously, what? Do you mean put some stuff in a gift bag?

It’s not a museum.

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yes, it’s just that fucking influencer talk:

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:09

Sunflower459 · 06/12/2025 23:16

One that has really been chafing my crack recently is when people refer to sex as ‘intimacy’ as though they have the same meaning. The reason it bugs me is that it’s often in situations where men are trying to present their (often post-partum) partners’ reluctance to have sex as a deliberate emotional neglect. Because that has nothing to do with ‘intimacy’ (which can look like anything from laughing together right up to sex, but try convincing these men to settle for anything less than penetrative sex in these situations and you’ll get short shrift). It’s disingenuous use of language deployed to make their selfishness seem more benign.

That and calling it ‘seggs’. For God’s sake grow up.

yip; those men online who seem to have positioned themselves as experts with their ridiculous opinions make me want to throw my phone.

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Fluffyholeysocks · 07/12/2025 09:10

'Must have' as in this season's must haves.

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:11

Jugendstiel · 06/12/2025 23:26

I get annoyed when interiors magazines say 'she sourced it from' and then say an antiques market or a shop. No she didn't. She bought it, just like everyone who buys their stuff at IKEA.

Interiors magazines are the worst for this sort of stuff!

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Zov · 07/12/2025 10:39

Sunflower459 · 06/12/2025 23:16

One that has really been chafing my crack recently is when people refer to sex as ‘intimacy’ as though they have the same meaning. The reason it bugs me is that it’s often in situations where men are trying to present their (often post-partum) partners’ reluctance to have sex as a deliberate emotional neglect. Because that has nothing to do with ‘intimacy’ (which can look like anything from laughing together right up to sex, but try convincing these men to settle for anything less than penetrative sex in these situations and you’ll get short shrift). It’s disingenuous use of language deployed to make their selfishness seem more benign.

That and calling it ‘seggs’. For God’s sake grow up.

Yeah I agree - about the intimacy shite. As you say, men who want 'intimacy' are not looking for a cuddle (sorry, I know some people hate that word!) and they're not looking for sitting on the sofa together watching a movie, and sharing a box of popcorn, or having a romantic meal for 2 at a restaurant, or going for a walk on a cosy, frosty, winters day.

They want sex. Preferably oral, and definitely penetrative, and as you say, it will often be when the woman/wife/partner is post partum. As long as they get their end away, it's all good! 👍

Hmm
Zov · 07/12/2025 10:40

Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 09:09

yip; those men online who seem to have positioned themselves as experts with their ridiculous opinions make me want to throw my phone.

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Yep, and men who try to dictate to women, and mansplain to them about WOMENS issues can get in the bin too.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 07/12/2025 10:41

Since I’ve just seen it yet again, ‘wonder’ when they mean ‘wander’!

Zov · 07/12/2025 10:43

OonaStubbs · 07/12/2025 00:54

I hate "cozzy livs".

I have always been annoyed by this, but it's growing on me. 😆 Puts me in mind of Platty Joobs! 😂 (I hated this also at the time (when it was the Platinum Jubilee,) but I quite like it now.

TiredMummma · 07/12/2025 10:59

The phrase I detest are ‘pinch me moment’ and ‘full
circle moment’ - they often follow an announcement about something incredibly mundane. Also can’t get round stupid misspellings like ‘brought’ and ‘bought’. Brought means to bring in the past tense - the clue is in the R ffs

Sunflower459 · 07/12/2025 11:03

TiredMummma · 07/12/2025 10:59

The phrase I detest are ‘pinch me moment’ and ‘full
circle moment’ - they often follow an announcement about something incredibly mundane. Also can’t get round stupid misspellings like ‘brought’ and ‘bought’. Brought means to bring in the past tense - the clue is in the R ffs

Oh God, loads of these. ‘Then’ instead of ‘than’. ‘Women’ instead of ‘woman’. Completely accept that we all fall foul of autocorrect from time to time, but these are so ubiquitous I’m beginning to wonder whether people just genuinely don’t know the difference. ‘Phase’/‘faze’, too. They are not interchangeable.

Anonymouseposter · 07/12/2025 11:10

Anything pretentious like elevated is irritating. Also the singular “wear it with a blue shoe, red lip” etc. Won’t you be hobbling in one shoe or look a bit odd with lipstick only on your top lip? Myself instead of me makes people sound like Hyacinth Bucket.

IngridBurger · 07/12/2025 11:13

NewOpenWaterSwimmer · 06/12/2025 23:35

Or even worse…

‘I, myself, wanted to order the fruit scone’.

Just say ‘I wanted to order the fruit scone’ - it doesn’t make you sound any more intelligent.

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Quite the opposite in fact. It's so annoying.

StupidHappyClocks · 07/12/2025 11:25

OonaStubbs · 07/12/2025 00:54

I hate "cozzy livs".

‘Cozzy livs’ makes me laugh, but only because my teen DD mutters it under her breath whenever I say ‘no’ to giving her money to spend on shite…’yeah, yeah, Mum, I know…Cozzy Livs’

FletchFan · 07/12/2025 11:30

The whole 'my village' thing. Where did that come from?

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Bouliegirl · 07/12/2025 11:34

Who is Cozzy Livs?

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pinesofrome · 07/12/2025 11:41

Everything is now a journey (weight loss, menopause etc). Also "Can I get" instead of "Can I order" in a restaurant.

Sunflower459 · 07/12/2025 11:43

FletchFan · 07/12/2025 11:30

The whole 'my village' thing. Where did that come from?

It’s from the saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child’. These days often trotted out by that type of parent who expects to extract from a village they never bothered to build, in my experience.

AgapanthusPink · 07/12/2025 11:44

‘Reached out’ when they mean ‘contacted’. I always get an image of someone doing performative dance moves to the sound of ‘Reach out I’ll be There’ by The Four Tops.

Grammarninja · 07/12/2025 11:46

"It is what it is" Duh!
"If that makes sense?" When it couldn't not.
"I'm not being funny but..." Obviously!
"Bubs" when referring to a baby.
"To cut a long story short" After an incredibly long-winded story.
"I'll give you a laugh" Bracing myself to fake laugh at something that will inevitably be unfunny.

Grammarninja · 07/12/2025 11:47

And Soz for sorry. Nails on a chalkboard for me!

Grammarninja · 07/12/2025 11:48

She loves 'her' food. Who else's food would she be loving?

FletchFan · 07/12/2025 11:50

Sunflower459 · 07/12/2025 11:43

It’s from the saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child’. These days often trotted out by that type of parent who expects to extract from a village they never bothered to build, in my experience.

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Ah yes of course. I just find it a bit annoying for some reason.

Sunflower459 · 07/12/2025 11:51

FletchFan · 07/12/2025 11:50

Ah yes of course. I just find it a bit annoying for some reason.

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I agree. It’s self-centred.

SeaAndStars · 07/12/2025 11:56

She turned around and she said...............

Yes no.....before anything and everything. It means nothing.

I'll take that.

Investment handbag.

Anyone who 'completes an outfit with a sleek pant.'

Smart casual.

21secondstopassthemic · 07/12/2025 11:56

Plating up.