Aibu - to not want to choose my own Christmas presents

[Menonut]

I hate being asked what I want, especially from my husband. Is it unreasonable to ask that he puts a little bit of thought in rather than just buying things off a list I’ve given him?
While a list means I’ll get things I like, I think the joy of a gift is the thought that people put in to what they’re buying. If I have a list I can just go and get that myself.
AIBU?

Depends if you will be here on Boxing Day asking if you're unreasonable for not liking what your DH bought you.

Would be lovely if people knew you / thought enough by themselves to get you things you’d really like…

… but so many struggle with this - giving some hints of things you’d like is probably a good idea…

I’d rather have some things i like / would use that I had ‘directed towards’ than a pile of random stuff that I wouldn’t use at all.

No. We’ve been together 34 years and I’ve not once complained about what I’ve been bought.

This is why I opt out of presents entirely. I have no idea what I want so expecting anyone else to figure it out is a completely unreasonable pressure to put on anyone.

YABU, I wouldn't have wanted the plastic shit my exH would have bought me if Id left him to it. Id rather have something I want.
My entire family insist on having "surprises" every single year which is a bloody nightmare I don't have time for. I work full time and have a very hectic life.
Yet they insist I tell them what I want to the letter or give me money.
Im also disabled and its so hard managing their expectations with everything else I have to deal with.
This is the last year Im doing it.
Xmas is well overdone, expectations are absurd, men are basically useless, let's just all make it easier for ourselves.
Choose something very expensive that you really want. He might have a rethink if you start doing this.

Yes but were the gifts actually something you would have bought if you'd seen it in a shop?
Did you like them? Use them?
You might not have complained out loud but was every gift a hit?

This is just personal preference. I have loads of things I want and happy to provide options, but I think I'm quite fussy with stuff. But I love food and do so much organising that I adore being taken for surprise bday meal where I haven't had to plan etc but it's somewhere I really want to go!

Can you give him a hint but let him choose? Eg last year I asked my DH for a necklace. So he had some guidance but it was still a nice surprise for me.

I hear you. It pisses me off too. This year I’ve bought myself some lovely Jimmy Choos on DH’s credit card that he intercepted on delivery and will wrap and give to me.

I think I’d rather get what I want as opposed to random (second hand stained) stuff my DH used to get! I send him a link, he buys what he wants, there are no disappointments on the day.

Yanbu. I do the thinking for everyone else’s gifts, it’s not too much to ask!

This, except I haven't opted out. Had my birthday only recently, so it's even harder, for me or anyone else to know what I'd like

I think that was it. It struck a nerve tonight and I was thinking “oh ffs, I’ve got to do that too!” Another thing to add to the list! It would be nice if there was one bit of Christmas I hadn’t organised.

We’re a ‘list’ family. I’ve asked for Aveda Miraculous Oil and Rituals Scalp Scrub this year. DH doesn’t even know what these things are, let alone think to buy them for me. He wants some random cookbook I didn’t know existed. DC are very specific about the trainers/clothes they want. We get each other a few little surprises too, but if we’re spending decent amounts of money, I would far rather buy something everyone wants.

I let my husband know if there’s anything I really want, and he’ll get it and a few extras so I still have a surprise. It’s nice not having to do a list for him (and my in-laws) as I already have to do a list for my parents and it does take away a bit of excitement to know exactly what I’m getting.

I've had plenty of crap presents from DH so I'm quite happy to be asked what I want! Last year he bought me a very fluffy onesie which I've never worn - have been in the throws of menopause for the last few years and I'm always boiling! He knows this 😂 he's just really bad at buying presents and often last minute panic buys something rubbish!

Yanbu. Mine can never just buy me something I'd like. It upsets me that he doesn't know what I'd like after years together.