Caring

[Clare197223]

Caring full time for my husband but it’s so hard ! He’s a retired police inspector and hasn’t lost his authority ! It’s a hard place to be x

Caring is really hard work! You’ve not only got the stress of someone being completely dependent on you and not seeming to be grateful but you’re also mourning the end of the life you thought you would have.

He’s probably trying to control everything. If you are his carer, he has no control over anything anymore except his own reactions, so grumpy becomes his go to, because it’s all he’s got. I’m not excusing it, I remember what it was like and it’s frustrating. He needs to recognise that you are wonderful and deserve some respect, and most importantly, his situation is not your fault.

There is financial help, respite care etc and lots of support for you here https://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/covid-19-guidance/emotional-support/

Most of all, remember that what you are doing is very difficult. It’s also hard for someone used to being in charge to accept that they’re not but being horrid isn’t making it easier for either of you. Good luck, you sound like a wonderful woman.