To feel sick with worry about multiple things. What is wrong with me?

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I basically fixate on something that could happen. Something that would basically ruin my life. It can be anything. I can make a minor mistake at work and blow it up to me thinking I might get sacked. And don’t get me started on the health worries I have about my kids. One of my children has medical issues, and I worry about her a lot. Then my other child is very clumsy and acts without thinking, and I worry about her.

I worry about my marriage. Panic about doing something to mess that up. We are a very happy couple, but I’ll find scenarios where I could lose it all.

I hide all of this from the outside world. I present as happy and fun. Not the most extravert, but somewhere in the middle. No one knows the fact that I’ll see a dodgy looking mole on my daughter’s arm and then fear the worst. Each time I work myself into a frenzy over something, I remind myself of how much I worried about the thing before, but then convince myself “but that thing wasn’t as bad as this one.” When things are really bad, I question the purpose of life. I would never, ever take my own life, but I worry that I am sitting waiting for that awful phone call that will come one day.

I have had some trauma, where I nearly lost my sister when she was just 32. She was in Intensive care as she has epilepsy and went into status epilepticus. M I don’t think this is the trigger, but maybe it is?

Despite not opening up to loved ones, I have quietly been going to therapy about all of this, but no improvement yet.

Has anyone been through this and could help me with some suggestions of ways to get better from this. Life is just passing me by and I am missing out on the joy that those around me are experiencing. I want to feel happy.

I take Duloxetine for anxiety. It’s bloody amazing.

Trauma could be the root cause for what you describe. Your brain is in a permanent threat state.

Does the therapist you're seeing have expertise in trauma to assess or treat?

Have you been assessed for PTSD?

If you were actually qualified to diagnose, you wouldn't be unequivocally declaring a diagnosis from a single online post.

What sort of therapy are you having OP? CBT did wonders for me with this sort of thing. Also MBCT which is mindfulness based cognitive therapy.

I agree with PP that it’s most likely secondary to trauma and it might be worth giving a low dose antidepressant a go?

Instead of just anxiety disorder could it be further than that? Do these things run through your mind all the time? Do you talk your way through scenarios in your head? Could you have ADHD? Does you anxiety get worse at different points in the month? Hormones play a huge part in how we feel. Look into it yourself because once you're medical notes say anxiety they (often) stop looking for answers about other things. And suddenly any physical problems are anxiety too and its harder to get help with issues. Maybe anti anxiety pills may help you or CBT (which isnt a cure all) but take the time to really review yourself and your thinking patterns and have an idea of what you want to try.