To not tell my family

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I have a lump in my breast. Been referred under the two week wait for cancer tests. I live alone, no partner/kids, haven’t told my mum or brother, mainly because we’ve had a crappy year (dad died in may, cancer) amongst other stuff and I don’t want to burden them with this additional stress/worry when it could be nothing. My mum is doing ok after my dad but this would set her right back. I’m doing the right thing keeping quiet until I know for sure right?

I think I’ll wait until my mum gets here for her Christmas stay to tell her rather than telling her over the phone now. At least then she won’t be alone worrying about it.

Wishing you well OP.
Is this the first time you've had a lump it’s understandably worrying, but remember 9/10 are nothing to be worried about, cysts or similar. I’ve had this several since my mid 30’s, and it’s always been an anxious wait. I’d say no point worrying your mum until you know what it is.

I didn't tell anyone until after. The appointment was a series of tests with the results there and then. Took less than 2 hours all in.
Apparently I have a family of cysts!! 3!!
How bloody delightful!. I am sure you will be fine op.

Hi Teaandscake. When they told you in was an 80% chance did they give you a P score from the Ultrasound and Mammogram? I'm in the same situation and timeframe , had biopsy last week and waiting. They didn't give me a % score, they just grade me P3. Really worried . Haven't told kids

It is entirely your decision but I would be very upset if DD felt she couldn't rely on me for support.
Having said that, this is about your feelings not your Mums