Would you message and tell her?

[Ljayne916]

Or just leave it?

my ex (who now has a partner and young child) and who I split up with 6 years ago has been messaging me.

He sent a message asking me if I’m still at my old work place and that he’s looking for a new job. Also wondered if I’ve met a ‘nice fella’ yet and if I’m renting or own my house? Very weird questions and he basically said his partner isn’t the one for him, in different wording but implying it.

I am ignoring him. I don’t actually have him as a friend on Facebook, so he’s searched my profile. I only answered as I wanted to know why he was asking if I was still in my previous job. And then he started asking the other questions but I’m not responding.

would you tell his partner or just keep out of it? I’d want to know if that was me but…

Ugh, I’m torn. On one hand, it invites drama. On the other hand, men get away with their horrible behaviour due to other people’s silence.

It’s Christmastime though so definitely don’t do anything this month.

The men who do the dirt then, women standing up for each other is never a wrong move.

I'd stay out of it. Sounds like he's going to be on his uppers soon and needing a bed going on his questions.

Ignore and block. Don't even enter into a dialogue.

He’s not trying to get with you though, is he? He’s hoping to get a better job.

She probably knows he sent you the messages and thinks you’re a bit nuts/still obsessed with him by not engaging. (And I’m not saying that’s OK/fair), but the messages don’t strike me as being about you.

In fact I'd take a stab in the dark, that he's been caught or going to be caught shagging someone at his work so is pre empting getting kicked out and needing a new job.

no ignore and block

unless you like the drama

If there's no need for you to keep in touch i.e, shared children or some ongoing financial dispute then block.

No need getting sucked into drama.