So fucking pissed off with my husband

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Went out today to see my adult son to celebrate my birthday. Had a lovely meal booked. I paid for everything, DH didn’t even buy a round of drinks. DH spent half the time staring into space and then to my fucking horror got his phone out in the restaurant and started scrolling. I’m beyond furious! Just got home and I’ve marched up to bed with my phone and wine. Who the fuck goes on their phone at a meal? I’m so angry I could cry. My birthday too.

I tell mine to put it away.

Is he normally like this? Not that that's ok. Sorry you had a crappy birthday. I hope he got you a decent gift at least if he didn't even pay for half the meal. Which is the bare minimum on a birthday I would have thought

Do you have more of a problem with DH than the phone issue? Happy birthday by the way. Sorry he ruined it.

Is he both your son or was he jealous you were also spending it with him

Happy Birthday by the way

Did you say anything to him?

My parents can be like this and it drives me insane when I visit. It seems like everyone is a zombie to their phones these days.

Happy Birthday!

Is he always so uninvolved and distant or was it just today?

Replying in solidarity ❤️

I've just spent the last hour ranting because I feel like a married single parent to 3 children (one of whom is my husband). I''m throughly fed up of his childish or ignorant behaviour. Rahhh!

Ps Happy birthday 💐

Eugh my DH did this recently at a dinner party with family friends. As soon as the hosts were distracted I hissed to him “get off your phone!”. It’s just so rude.

I would have said something at the table and I cannot believe he didn’t bother to cover the bill. Has he got some issues going on in his life or something?

Has he been assessed for ADHD?

I’m so done. He’s not my son’s dad but he’s been in his life since primary school. For the past 12 years or so he’s not wanted much sex. Now apparently he does. It’s what I’ve wanted for sooo long but it’s just too little too late. Uugh. Drip feed sorry.

Do you and your husband not share finances? I'm sorry you are feeling let down by him on your birthday. I hope you had a nice time with your son.

The first thing I thought was, is he trying to punish you/upset you or is he texting another woman? It’s your birthday and he completely switched off, like he was trying to prove a point. Not nice. The increased sex drive yet seemingly no emotional connection, makes me lean towards the latter.

Either way, he should have acted nicer and made more of an effort.

Happy Birthday!

I’m sorry your husband is an arsehole. Perhaps you could leave him as a little birthday treat to yourself? It sounds like you’re fed up. When you say now he wants sex, do you mean right now? Or at the moment in general? Cannot stand men who don’t understand that foreplay doesn’t just start when you’re in the bedroom. The whole bloody day impacts it!

Yes, meant to say happy bday too!

Happy b'day OP! And yeah, hubby was a rude idiot tonight, sorry. Is he always like this with you?

Happy birthday OP, sorry you had a shit time at your birthday meal out. That would piss me off too.

My DH scrolls so much I expect one day his right hand will drop off. Sitting on his phone for hours whilst DC is growing up fast and our house is falling to bits. I feel your pain OP.